People may forget what you did, but won't forget how you made them feel. (guilty, talks)

[MSPLove]

Do you agree with this?
And more important, do you believe it is worth ending a relationship over?

I think when someone leaves you with a distinct impression/feeling, they have shown you who they are. There are people who have made me feel a certain way at some point in the past, and I haven't been able to look at them the same way since. We may have good times, we may get along, but yes.... for me it IS a deal-breaker on ever being close. Sad to say.
Or if we were close at some point in the past, we will be no longer.

[sirron]

Short answer: Yes.

Frank Luntz LuntzGlobal.com - It's not what you say, it's what they hear - Home talks a lot about this very thing. He states in his books that it's not necessarily what you say, it's what people hear, which can be two entirely different things! Communication is a fine art that is not practiced well enough these days.

[yankeegirl313]

I can forgive people, but not forget, so I guess that goes on the same guide lines as I cannot forget how they made me feel!

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by MSPLove

Do you agree with this?
And more important, do you believe it is worth ending a relationship over?

I think when someone leaves you with a distinct impression/feeling, they have shown you who they are. There are people who have made me feel a certain way at some point in the past, and I haven't been able to look at them the same way since. We may have good times, we may get along, but yes.... for me it IS a deal-breaker on ever being close. Sad to say.
Or if we were close at some point in the past, we will be no longer.

I think you're spot on with this post.

I think in general it applies to most situations, not just romantic relationships......

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by MSPLove

Do you agree with this?
And more important, do you believe it is worth ending a relationship over?

I think when someone leaves you with a distinct impression/feeling, they have shown you who they are. There are people who have made me feel a certain way at some point in the past, and I haven't been able to look at them the same way since. We may have good times, we may get along, but yes.... for me it IS a deal-breaker on ever being close. Sad to say.
Or if we were close at some point in the past, we will be no longer.

Yes, Maya Angelou has a saying "when people show themselves to you believe them".

[Osito]

I have a tendency to remember things, but that's probably not the case for most people. So yes, that may be right for other people.

[laorbust61]

Originally Posted by MSPLove

Do you agree with this?
And more important, do you believe it is worth ending a relationship over?

I think when someone leaves you with a distinct impression/feeling, they have shown you who they are. There are people who have made me feel a certain way at some point in the past, and I haven't been able to look at them the same way since. We may have good times, we may get along, but yes.... for me it IS a deal-breaker on ever being close. Sad to say.
Or if we were close at some point in the past, we will be no longer.

I agree, because if a person mistreats you, that act can trigger deep seated feelings from your childhood or from past trauma. It's like touching scar tissue, perhaps healed but still sensitive to the touch (or the jab!)

And one can forgive, but may be far less likely to trust the person who caused them this kind of pain again. To say whether it is worth ending a relationship over, I would suppose that is up to the injured party to decide. It seems very callous for the person to inflicted the wound/or the pain to summarize the severity of it, but it is entirely understandable, a human inclination to minimize the pain we cause others, because we feel guilty about hurting them. Understandable, but still rather thoughtless and callous.