Advice needed: mom versus vacation (guilty, person, issues, mother)
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I've been planning a trip to South Beach with friends for the past 2 months. It's next week. I just found out today my mom has been laid off....for the past 4 months. I live in Chicago; my mom is in South Carolina.
She's always made very little money and is always behind in her bills. Sometimes I pay some of her bills and send her money. I'm surprised she didn't tell me; my aunt just found today and told me. I went on vacation to San Fran last month...if I would have known this I would have never made vacation plans for Cali and FL!
How fair would that be...me going to MIA next week when I have no clue if she's even eating enough or about to have bills cut off? My aunt told me I can't tell my mom I know cuz she'll be pissed she told me :/
I feel like I should cancel the MIA trip for next week and send my mom money...I just feel so guilty having to cancel as I planned the trip and everyone has bought their tickets...but they should be understanding...right..?
Go on vacation. Your Mom will call if she needs funds. And she can get food stamps. I support my Mom too, but I don't deny myself. She chose her own path.
jasper12,You are right! Its Way? But perhaps if you'll really need assistance, (You'll ask for help) do not to the native people?
southkakkatlantan,Call my mother and ask-whether she needs help. And make, its move on conscience
I've been planning a trip to South Beach with friends for the past 2 months. It's next week. I just found out today my mom has been laid off....for the past 4 months. I live in Chicago; my mom is in South Carolina.
She's always made very little money and is always behind in her bills. Sometimes I pay some of her bills and send her money. I'm surprised she didn't tell me; my aunt just found today and told me. I went on vacation to San Fran last month...if I would have known this I would have never made vacation plans for Cali and FL!
How fair would that be...me going to MIA next week when I have no clue if she's even eating enough or about to have bills cut off? My aunt told me I can't tell my mom I know cuz she'll be pissed she told me :/
I feel like I should cancel the MIA trip for next week and send my mom money...I just feel so guilty having to cancel as I planned the trip and everyone has bought their tickets...but they should be understanding...right..?
What do you mean "MIA trip"?
Is your concern about not having enough money for both the trip and helping your mother?
Could you manage to do both? Is your mom someone who doesn't handle her life and repeatedly gets into situations like this from a result of poor planning or is there more to it?
I don't think help is always a given based on the person's relationship to you. It always depends on several things, family or not.
Is your concern about not having enough money for both the trip and helping your mother?
Could you manage to do both? Is your mom someone who doesn't handle her life and repeatedly gets into situations like this from a result of poor planning or is there more to it?
I don't think help is always a given based on the person's relationship to you. It always depends on several things, family or not.
MIA= Miami
I think I could manage to do both if I compromise by going a day later and come back in the morning instead of evening. I could also fly into Fort Lauderdale instead of Mia, which would save money that could be sent to her.
Yes, my mom has issues as everyone does and yes, she has made mistakes (staying at this $9/hr job for 14 years without trying to do better is one of them IMO). But she's still my mom and now that I know what I know I feels it's only right to help. I honestly think she didn't want me to know so I wouldn't alter my plans/budget based on her circumstances, but hey, that's life....
I'm just very torn as everyone has purchased their flights already, and it's next week. As of right now I'm feeling like the 'compromise' proposed above would work best...
Wouldn't you understand if this problem was your friends rather than yours? Talk it over with them. If it were me I would help my Mom.
I would, but everyone is not as understanding as me...
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