Coming off as "stuck up" (person, member, cousins)
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Cliff notes of what happened I was having dinner with my family and we laughing and having some nice discussions. My uncle was talking about his grandson and it was a generally conversation about all of my little cousins who I would baby sit a lot. I made a joke that I wanted daughters because taking care of my girl cousins was less stressful than taking care of my boy cousins though I stil love them all the same.
My uncle replied that who would carry on my name and I replied that he can take her last name.
Afterwards my mom told me that I can come off as stuck up to people when I do that. I know me and the "status quo" are not best buds but I really try not to come off like that.
You think sometimes coming off as stuck up just can't really be avoided. Me personally I know I could of come
off as much worse than I did.
Yeah, it just embarrassed mom. You made a comment that was not to their liking or did not fit a "conventional" standard like Wmsn4Life said. Just chalk it up to a moment and enjoy the next outing.
Doesn't strike me as stuck-up or at all odd or embarrassing. To me it's just normal conversation.
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Yeah, it just embarrassed mom. You made a comment that was not to their liking or did not fit a "conventional" standard like Wmsn4Life said. Just chalk it up to a moment and enjoy the next outing.
^^^This. (And, BTW, it was your mom's weird moment. Has nothing at all to do with how your uncle might have perceived the moment.)
Agreed. Your mom might know it's useless to tell you "don't say unconventional things" so, being human, she'd subconsciously go for a weak point. That the "stuck up" comment bothered you, is evident by your posting about it in the forum, so perhaps she's already noticed it's a sensitive point for you.
I used to get called 'stuck up' too, from being too shy to greet people properly as a kid. That stung! I was no such thing. (I hope lol)
Anyhow, I like your thinking. I kept my married name during the divorce so that the kids and I would match as they grew up, but as soon as the youngest is out the door Ima change it back!!
Cliff notes of what happened I was having dinner with my family and we laughing and having some nice discussions. My uncle was talking about his grandson and it was a generally conversation about all of my little cousins who I would baby sit a lot. I made a joke that I wanted daughters because taking care of my girl cousins was less stressful than taking care of my boy cousins though I stil love them all the same.
My uncle replied that who would carry on my name and I replied that he can take her last name.
Afterwards my mom told me that I can come off as stuck up to people when I do that. I know me and the "status quo" are not best buds but I really try not to come off like that.
You think sometimes coming off as stuck up just can't really be avoided. Me personally I know I could of come
off as much worse than I did.
Anyone else has had an experience like that.
Stuck up is in the eye of the beholder. People with inferiority issues will see that everywhere. I have a family member who is a great example. I love her to pieces but she has issues with people who have money and live the lifestyle their money brings them. They are stuck up to her. She also worries about what other people think, a lot. I hear "La gente se piensan...(people will think....)." several times a day when I am with her. It's sad. But it is her reality. I don't give too much weight to that sort of thing. I know my intentions, no one can tell me any differently. Well, they can try, but I'm not going to be a slave to others' perceptions.
I think your mom is wrong..you wouldn't come off as stuck up to most people...not at all..You're right, a girl could keep her last name, or even both last names..I've always hated that people feel that only a son can keep the name going....ridiculous really (unless it's an extremely different name), I mean look in the phonebook...chances are you share the same last name with a whole bunch of other people.
My definition of stuck up is someone who is overly conceited and/or arrogant. Your response to the discussion sounds like neither.
Unconventional does not = stuck up. Unless you somehow make it known that your way is obviously better than any other way, and make it known that you feel you are superior to others for your way of thinking.
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