Long-Time Friend Is Behaving Strange, Help Please!! (jealous, member, Christmas)
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I need some fair, outside opinions, maybe I'm missing something here?? I don't know what else to do but to post our last conversations from yesterday (last night) from text.....but these bizarre responses have been going on since Christmas Eve. Ok.....
Her: Swear, nothing makes me any sicker than watching love scenes on these old movies. Mom's fd up view on romance has messed me up to this day.....geez
Me: Now that there is what they call a profound revelation my friend
Her: Yup, been getting some of them lately Butterfly!!
Her: Her constant need for validation without reciprocation has left me fd up.
Me: Hell gf its about time. You got years of pent up repressed **** that needs releasing, I am so proud of you for even saying that out loud about your Mom.
Her: Thanks!! I tried to call you are you still busy?
Me: Oh no sorry I'm at Sam's now, P.J. left at 8. I'm feeling so glad to be feeling better I think I had a real bad case of cabin fever, I'm manic.......probably on my way to the nuthouse lol
Her: K see ya there!! Later (insert MY NAME) important to note: she never calls me by my name
(I thought the conversation was over so I didn't text anything else)
Her: she sends me a BLANK text
Me: Huh? You sent a blank text lol
Her: Yup
Me: R u mad??
(No response so I send it again)
Me: R u mad??
Her: I don't get mad at ppl I love. I do however feel sad. But that's ok.
Me: Sad about what?? to tell u the truth (insert her name) u haven't made any sense since I told you I was at Sam's.
Her: No sense. Ok, i just needed to talk to a friend cuz I'm hurting. Sorry that I have confused you.
Me: No don't turn this around on me, I want you to look back at all of our texts......go way back to Christmas Eve. If there's a god that's worth his salt he will not allow my dearest friend to turn on me now??
Her: I have not turned on you. I just needed to talk to someone who understands me, and loves me for who I am
Her: Good grief, I just wanted to connect to my best friend. Didn't want to be the subject of negativity. Don't know what Christmas text would have bothered you, but sorry.
Me: Good lord (insert her name) what r u talking about? I was listening intently but the minute I said something about myself and Sam a switch flipped, I'm asking you to please go back over our texts since Christmas Eve and if you can't see that ur mood and texts just changed after I told you that then Houston we got a problem
Her: Enjoy yourself. I don't even understand why you're upset with me. When I called to see how you were a few hours ago you sounded so good.
Me: Ok let's start over.....forget about all that for now.....r u mad because I didn't call you before I left? Did I say I was going to? The last thing I remember saying was that I would talk to you tomm. Is that what you're mad about?
Her: Of course not (insert my name). Anytime is always good for me. You seem to be angry now. I did not bring this upon you. Ask Sam what to say next, you're hurting me.
Me: Ok, do you want to call me?
Her: no response
Me: Ok, do you want to call me?
Her: No response
Me: Ok I love you I don't know what to do
Sam: Hey (insert her name) this is Sam. Do you want to talk to me?
Her: No response
Me: Ok I'm home now if you want to call me. We really need to talk
No more responses from her. Just based on this conversation without having to go into our back stories.......what happened here? I'm perplexed. Your thoughts? I can definitely elaborate to have this make more sense, just didn't want to make this post too long.
And please, be honest I really want to know if I did something wrong here. She was really mean to me at Christmas time, and she doesn't see it either.
Me: probably on my way to the nuthouse lol Her: K see ya there!!
Her: Ok, i just needed to talk to a friend cuz I'm hurting. Sorry that I have confused you.
Her: Good grief, I just wanted to connect to my best friend. after I told you that then Houston we got a p
Her: Enjoy yourself. I don't even understand why you're upset with me. When I called to see how you were a few hours ago you sounded so good.
Think she meant see you at the nuthouse and you never responded back. She was already emotional and was looking for an excuse to break down and have a good cry. Sounds like the ramblings of someone who's feeling sorry for themselves and or possibly drinking.
hate texting and don't have it and wouldn't use it.
Especially hate trying to follow a conversation someone is laying out,in order to ask for help, but is using what I can only consider is a text conversation as opposed to the good old fashioned phone call.
If you want to speak with someone,are worried about someone--either drive over to see them or pick up the phone and call them. Texting needs to be called antiquated and stopped! A LOT is inferred via the written word.
Her: Of course not (insert my name). Anytime is always good for me. You seem to be angry now. I did not bring this upon you. Ask Sam what to say next, you're hurting me.
Me: Ok, do you want to call me?
Her: no response
Me: Ok, do you want to call me?
Her: No response
Hello??? CALL HER! No response means YES! She wants you to take the initiative to show you care. Good luck.
Not trying to be sarcastic or anything but I'm not familiar with the rules of texting and what means what. Interesting.
No, that's not a 'texting rule' - it just applies in this instance. If she didn't want to talk to him, she would have said, no, leave me alone. I sensed her silence was a pouting response, as in "if you care, you would call...". When faced with a pouting woman, take the initiative, KWIM?
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