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I truly believe the happier/more positive you are, the friendlier you are, and the friendlier people are to you.
(yes, I heard the deafening, 'well duh' but let me continue)
When I'm feeling down, everyone seems almost hostile, judging and grumpy - I project my feelings onto them. Whereas if I'm feeling 'up', they seem friendlier, more approving.
Yet there's an irony. When I'm down, I'm almost jealous/annoyed by happiness/laughter. I don't want people to be happy because I'm not happy. If they're laughing, I oughta be laughing too! (it's a selfish thought).
Whereas if I'm really happy, I almost get annoyed at all the frowns/glum faces I see on the bus or the train or at the supermarket. You just want to do a Richard Simmons' on them and ask them to turn that frown upside down...but you know you'll probably get a broken jaw for it.
But my point is, it seems when I'm happier I'm less shy, it's easier to talk to people (anyone, really), conversation is more positive, light-hearted, joking...it improves your social situation TREMENDOUSLY.
Just some advice to those having social problems. Try to be happy and NICE to people and you may find yourself surprised! That grump might not be so bad after all. Kill them with kindness!
I truly believe the happier/more positive you are, the friendlier you are, and the friendlier people are to you.
You mean me? In my experience, sometimes these are correlated, sometimes not.
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When I'm feeling down, everyone seems almost hostile, judging and grumpy - I project my feelings onto them.
Some people project more than others.
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Yet there's an irony. When I'm down, I'm almost jealous/annoyed by happiness/laughter. I don't want people to be happy
There's a funny aphorism, "misery loves company", what makes it funnier is that there's no counterpart aphorism, "happiness loves company". Maybe people love company? I see no wrong in wanting company, as in companionship, as that's a legitimate human need. But if you want to bring them down, then you don't deserve the company.
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Whereas if I'm really happy, I almost get annoyed at all the frowns/glum faces I see on the bus or the train or at the supermarket.
You just want to do a Richard Simmons' on them and ask them to turn that frown upside down...
It sounds like you're looking at people as if they're a show you paid to go see, in that you're unsatisfied when they don't deliver what you expected. Maybe it would be better to accept people as they are. Maybe they're not as glum as you think they are, or maybe they are. If you want to help them, help based on what they want, not what you think they need. Or just don't worry about it.
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Just some advice to those having social problems. Try to be happy and NICE to people and you may find yourself surprised! That grump might not be so bad after all. Kill them with kindness!
I'm in favor of kindness. I think being accepting of people as they are, and not projecting stuff onto them, would be kind as well.
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Originally Posted by imcurious
It's called the Law of Attraction.
The law of attraction says, "like attracts like" (kind of like saying, "birds of a feather flock together"). While this tends to happen in a lot of situations, there are times when it doesn't. Calling something a "law" without rigorous scientific confirmation is a bit of a stretch. I suppose that's forgivable, since it's not the first time we've seen a belief system that claims to be true, right, and applicable for all beings, all the time. Perhaps people need stuff like that.
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