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I just found out yesterday that my only sibling will be homeless in a week. My parents have refused to let him move in with them. He lives 500 miles away from me, has a drug problem, no job and an arrest record. I have not seen or spoken to him in about 5 years.
I truely do not know what to do, if anything. I love him, but can't have him around my children because of his problems. I can't afford to send him the $400 plus a month he needs to live. He would probably just spend it on drugs anyway.
Have any of you ever been in this situation? I am heartbroken and scared for him. I am also racked with guilt although I don't know what I can do to help him.
Been through a lot of the same things with my brother. Drug use, arrests, hes currently in jail and will be there for several months. I just block it out. I dont feel guilty because of what he's put me and my family through (stolen personal items and money). I will welcome him back into my life once he becomes my brother again. Until then I have to let things run there course or else he'll never get better-if people around him continue to enable his behavior.
That's really a tough situation to be in. Is there any possibility you could just talk to him in order to reconnect with him and at least just express your support for him even if you can't do anything else? I can understand why you'd feel a certain amount of guilt but he's obviously made some very bad choices and that isn't your fault. The unfortunate reality is that he's going to have to make a decision on his own to improve his circumstances and all you can do is hope that he is able to do so.
I just found out yesterday that my only sibling will be homeless in a week. My parents have refused to let him move in with them. He lives 500 miles away from me, has a drug problem, no job and an arrest record. I have not seen or spoken to him in about 5 years.
I truely do not know what to do, if anything. I love him, but can't have him around my children because of his problems. I can't afford to send him the $400 plus a month he needs to live. He would probably just spend it on drugs anyway.
Have any of you ever been in this situation? I am heartbroken and scared for him. I am also racked with guilt although I don't know what I can do to help him.
I was briefly homeless when I was 18. It wasn't that bad..
If I was in your shoes, I would not offer my help (depending on the drug actually). I don't envy you for having to make that tough decision though
Becoming homeless may be the very thing which inspires him to get his act together; sending him money will allow him to keep up his life of being a loser.
Were I you, I would offer to buy him a bus ticket to a drug rehab facility, and nothing more.
Becoming homeless may be the very thing which inspires him to get his act together; sending him money will allow him to keep up his life of being a loser.
Were I you, I would offer to buy him a bus ticket to a drug rehab facility, and nothing more.
Having a drug addiction does not make him a loser. He's an addict and maybe has some mental illness going on as well. I'm sure he's not using drugs because he loves himself and is a happy camper.
It's nice that his brother is so concerned yet backed in a corner, he can't jeaopardize his own family and well being. I wish both of them luck.
Kindness, I’ve discovered, is everything in life. -Isaac Bashevis Singer
Having a drug addiction does not make him a loser. He's an addict and maybe has some mental illness going on as well. I'm sure he's not using drugs because he loves himself and is a happy camper.
It's nice that his brother is so concerned yet backed in a corner, he can't jeaopardize his own family and well being. I wish both of them luck.
Kindness, I’ve discovered, is everything in life. -Isaac Bashevis Singer
No, he's a loser. Having an arrest record = loser. Grown man who can't support himeslf = loser. Yes, it is harsh but it is true. It doesn't mean he is doomed to be a loser forever, and I 100% believe anyone can turn his/her life around. But he's a loser.... definitely isn't a winner!
Becoming homeless may be the very thing which inspires him to get his act together; sending him money will allow him to keep up his life of being a loser.
Were I you, I would offer to buy him a bus ticket to a drug rehab facility, and nothing more.
I think this is the way to go. "Tough love". If you help him out, you'll be enabling him. Some kind of family intervention to get him to rehab might shake him up a bit. Maybe the family can pool together some of the funds for rehab, with the condition that if he leaves early or outright refuses to go, there will be no further offers to help or any contact?
(Or I've been watching too much "Intervention" on A&E)
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