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I personally would never drop in unnanounced on anyone , I was brought to think it was extremely rude and thoughtless. I would worry someone was having a bad day, not dressed, working, in the bath, having a bit of a "love in" with their other halfs etc...
As a control freak I also prefer if people give me at least an hour's notice so I can be sure everything is perfectly neat and tidy and I feel presentable the way I want. I do not want to feel I "have to" be sociable when I don't feel like it or do not feel up to it.
Mind you on the other hand when people ring the bell and I don't want to answer I just ignore it.
I think it is common courtesy to give someone a chance to get themselves in order or let you know they don't feel like company.
Someone's home is their private retreat and I feel privacy is very important.
It does not take long to ring someone and ask them whether they feel like company.
Mooseketeer, I agree with you, although I am not a control freak, and I dont think that makes you one either. Our homes are suppose to be our comfort zone. Now I'm not talking about the friend that comes over and is so close to you they get in the fridge or pour their own coffee.. not that one.. but the ones that only drop in on you unannounced. You know the ones. I have always opened my door and been social, but here, in this forum, I can say I don't like it!! lol
I know Sunday, the last time I had unannounced guests, they caught my husband on the couch, with a blanket and pillow, in his jammies, all fixed in to watch his race. Not the way you'd want to intertain someone.
I know Sunday, the last time I had unannounced guests, they caught my husband on the couch, with a blanket and pillow, in his jammies, all fixed in to watch his race. Not the way you'd want to intertain someone.
Several months ago we were both blobbed out in the livingroom in our robes, not sick but extremely tired. The phone rang and we let the answering machine come on. It was his sisters from the other side of the state, parked on our driveway, and they asked us to wave from the window if we were home. I was shocked when he told me to NOT wave. So I didn't, and after a minute or two they pulled out and left. They have kids who live here, which is probably why they were in town. But I think my husband gets more annoyed at this problem than he lets on.
Several months ago we were both blobbed out in the livingroom in our robes, not sick but extremely tired. The phone rang and we let the answering machine come on. It was his sisters from the other side of the state, parked on our driveway, and they asked us to wave from the window if we were home. I was shocked when he told me to NOT wave. So I didn't, and after a minute or two they pulled out and left. They have kids who live here, which is probably why they were in town. But I think my husband gets more annoyed at this problem than he lets on.
That told you a lot by him telling you NOT to wave. At least they called from the driveway.. Mine gets worse. We got hit with IKE and are living in a Fema trailer, so now I got 3 visitors A MONTH to come around, with no warning to come check in my tolet, fridge and even the microwave! I am suppose to like this I guess!~ Ug!
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I can't even imagine why anyone would be upset about family or friends (veryclose friends, anyway) showing up unexpectedly, unless it were to stay a few days, then I'd definitely want notice to make room, make sure I had enough food for everyone, etc.
On the other hand, I like to give others notice. That's just me. I know that a lot of people don't like uninvited or unannounced company nowadays and I don't want to embarrass anyone or be made to feel awkward for not asking first. People just don't seem to be as friendly and welcoming as they used to be.
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