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I just started thinking about what happened at work about a year ago. This co-worker and I were pregnant at the same time. She was about 8 months along. I saw her outside and she was smoking. I asked her how she was and she said between puffs of smoke:
"I can't handle this job anymore. These customers are driving me crazy. I'm so worried. All this stress CANOOT be good for the baby!"
I wanted to say: "I'd be more worried about the smoking than the stress."
What I did say was nothing.
I'd like your comments on this. Is it appropriate to say something to her or is it best to mind your own business like I did?
Last edited by KylieEve; 06-12-2010 at 01:56 PM..
Reason: spelling
I have a bigger mouth then most people so I would have told her the truth. She is obviously a clueless waste. The only person more stupid then her is her husband for allowing her selfish self to pump out a nicotine addicted baby. Is it child abuse if the the baby is not born yet?
You said this was a year ago. Do you still know her? How did it turn out?
I would just ask: "well what about the smoking on top of the stress?"
She may of just quit for the baby and had a "moment".
But since it was a work situation its best to just keep your mouth shut. People can get crazy and over react to the stupidest things. Let Darwinism takes its course.
I'm sure she already knew that smoking wasn't good for the baby, so it's not likely that you reminding her of it would have made her stop. I think you did the right thing in keeping your thoughts to yourself.
I just started thinking about what happened at work about a year ago. This co-worker and I were pregnant at the same time. She was about 8 months along. I saw her outside and she was smoking. I asked her how she was and she said between puffs of smoke:
"I can't handle this job anymore. These customers are driving me crazy. I'm so worried. All this stress CANOOT be good for the baby!"
I wanted to say: "I'd be more worried about the smoking than the stress."
What I did say was nothing.
I'd like your comments on this. Is it appropriate to say something to her or is it best to mind your own business like I did?
She probably just complained about the stress because she knew that you saw her smoking and wanted to validate herself. She probably knew it was bad for the baby but wanted to give an excuse for her behavior before you have the chance to mention it.
I think you did right but not saying anything. It's not as if we live in the 1950s when people didn't know that smoking was harmful. I wouldn't worry about it. But if you ever see somebody who looks like they have no clue that smoking is bad for a baby you shouldn't feel like you have to refrain from saying something.
Some people are just so blatantly selfish! Luckily we have control of our own actions so we don't make the same mistakes. There are many times a week that I have to let things roll off my back, knowing that my words will do nothing to change someone. Best to avoid conflict with someone like that--it's just a waste of time.
I just started thinking about what happened at work about a year ago. This co-worker and I were pregnant at the same time. She was about 8 months along. I saw her outside and she was smoking. I asked her how she was and she said between puffs of smoke:
"I can't handle this job anymore. These customers are driving me crazy. I'm so worried. All this stress CANOOT be good for the baby!"
I wanted to say: "I'd be more worried about the smoking than the stress."
What I did say was nothing.
I'd like your comments on this. Is it appropriate to say something to her or is it best to mind your own business like I did?
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