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Bans of marriage need to be published in the Church bulletin. Mine were published in the church I belonged to, which is the church our pre cana was through.
This is just another reason as a person raised Catholic, who beleives in God, I've fallen out of going to church. I just find it all so hypocritial. Your expected to follow the rules, yet within the church there is sexual abuse, theft and anything else you could think of. A Monsignor in my parents church recentley retired, married his secretary of many years and disapeared with a million bucks of church money.
Catholicism is a "do as you're told" religion. Priests and deacons are only messengers of God and nowhere in the bible or the Summa Theologica is it stated that the faithful should expect them to live without sin. What they do with their lives is for them to answer for in judgement day and has no bearing on one's faith.
This is just another reason as a person raised Catholic, who beleives in God, I've fallen out of going to church. I just find it all so hypocritial. Your expected to follow the rules, yet within the church there is sexual abuse, theft and anything else you could think of. A Monsignor in my parents church recentley retired, married his secretary of many years and disapeared with a million bucks of church money. One day I ran into a Deacon of my church in Home Depot. He started a conversation which was extremely racist. I actually beleived he was testing me in some way until I finally figured out thats just who he was. My mother was raised in a Catholic run orphanage in Ireland, she goes to church every week and all holy days. My father was an usher for 20 years. Recentley she requested a letter of recomendation from her parish needed to become a sponsor for a youth from another parish making his conformation. Her parish refused her the letter saying they had no record of her weekly envolope contributions to the church. They contribute, they just don't use the envolope. The parish didn't even recognize them by name. After all the time and effort they contributed. They knew who they were when my old man went to the rectory to raise hell. Then it was just a big mistake. Its just about the money. My parish collects 40K a week, they publish this information in the bulliten. Where does 160K a month go? not back into the community. Its just like organized crime, it gets kicked up to Rome. Why does the church need all the gold and pageanrty? Jesus was homeless and aquired no wealth. Why is the Catholic Church the richest entity on earth? If they were actually living what they preach they'd be broke. Whats the Message? I believe the new Pope is trying to change the church but he's got a long way to go. The sad thing is, after going to parochial school for eight years and being raised Catholic I'm so brainwashed that I actually still feel I'm doing something wrong by not attending weekly Mass.
Please spare us the dissertation about the evils and corruption of the Catholic Church. Stay on point.
Hi there,
My fiance and I are looking to get married on Long Island (preferably Suffolk County). We want a catholic wedding, and know we will have to take part in Pre Cana classes. The thing is I know a lot of Catholic Churches tend to be strict when it comes to living together before marriage, and I really don't want to lie to the priest regarding our living arrangments. I am just wondering if anyone has any experience with a more laid back Catholic Church that would still be willing to marry us even if we do live together.
Any help is appreciated! Thanks
Just out of curiosity, why would you want to get married in the Catholic Church if you choose not to follow the Church's teachings?
I googled the topic after seeing this thread. Some Catholic websites say it is up to the pastor of the church and at worst he would want the couple to not live together while preparing for the marriage. It also said that some pastors don't require this, and it said nothing about having previously lived together (in the past) being a reason for refusing to marry them. I guess that's because the couple could just go to confession and be back in good graces.
Exactly. But after going to Confession, you have to make an honest effort to change your ways; in this case, live apart until you are married. Going to Confession and continuing your old ways is pointless.
Don't think OP said that he/she does not want to follow teachings.
But the OP is not following the Church's teachings if he/she is cohabiting prior to marriage.
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