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You won't ever get over the loss but you will learn to live with it. My father died in 1992. We were very close and it took me from October to Valentine's Day to finally break down and sob.
Here is the good news, though. Your memories will be gain a lovely patina and you will eventually smile whenever you think of him.
Where does the time go? I remember taking care of him when he was sick.
I hear ya, Tony! Tomorrow will be 7 months that hubby has been gone! I didn't think I could make it one day without him and now...it's just my "new" life. I'm NOT just getting through one day at a time now. I'm NOT waking up saying "I have to go through another day?" I'm thanking God for letting me wake up to another day now.
My dad died in '04. I miss him and my mother everyday. I'm so all alone now. No parent to "kiss and make feel better". It does get better with time though. I'm just in a feel sorry for myself mood right now after replying to a couple of posts on other threads. I don't cry much anymore over any of my loved ones so sometimes writing about them makes me weepy. Keta is right, the memories of my Mom and Dad do make me smile now.
To me, four months is not a very long time since your dad's demise. I lost my dad in 2002, he was seemingly healthy until about a week before his death, I feel he died rather suddenly. It was very difficult for me, since I had my dad for 50 years, I couldn't imagine tomorrow without him.
Eight years before that I lost my husband to single vehicle accident. It was a couple of years before I finally let go of my grief.
Grieve all you want, each person is different and time is the only thing that helps your grief. I always feel like my dad and husband are still with me, they will always be in my heart.
Where does the time go? I remember taking care of him when he was sick.
Your father died one day after my son. I am still counting the weeks and morbidly reliving his death every Thursday, just as I joyously relived his birth one day a year every year of his life.
Sorry........this is about you. I don't know where the time goes. I hope that your loss gets easier with time. My sincere condolences.
Your father died one day after my son. I am still counting the weeks and morbidly reliving his death every Thursday, just as I joyously relived his birth one day a year every year of his life.
Sorry........this is about you. I don't know where the time goes. I hope that your loss gets easier with time. My sincere condolences.
juneau, if I'm not mistaken, this whole forum is about US. It is OUR forum to talk about our dead loved ones and OUR experiences. Tony made the comment that he can't believe how the time has passed since his dad's death and WE can make our own comments accordingly. Don't feel bad to relate your own feelings/experiences to his comment. That's how "conversation" goes. I'm sure Tony appreciates hearing that he is not alone in realizing that our lives do go on no matter how crappy we may be feeling. Peace to you.
Juneau, I don't think that's what Tam meant either. Of course it is a forum for everyone - threads morph a little bit all the time and grow to include many people other than the original poster. I agree with Tam - we all want to know that we are not alone. Everyone's situation is unique, but at the bottom of it all most of us have experienced huge losses in our lives.
Peace to all today. Hopefully, it will help to share just a little bit. We all definitely understand that.
Your father died one day after my son. I am still counting the weeks and morbidly reliving his death every Thursday, just as I joyously relived his birth one day a year every year of his life.
Sorry........this is about you. I don't know where the time goes. I hope that your loss gets easier with time. My sincere condolences.
You can chime in. It's isn't just about me. Sorry about your loss. Why does god take the good people?
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I didn't think I could make it one day without him and now...it's just my "new" life. I'm NOT just getting through one day at a time now. I'm NOT waking up saying "I have to go through another day?" I'm thanking God for letting me wake up to another day now. 
