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I have had quite a few (I'm 45) female bosses. And honestly? They are my preference. I've had so many amazing women be my mentors.
Men still dominate in many businesses, so it's not uncommon to be interviewed by men.
I will admit, I can still feel awkward when interviewed by me female peers. I've had talks with other women I've become friends with.... she freely admitted she felt intimidated by me, and I confessed I felt the same.
I think there IS a weird dynamic sometimes between women. In general, I feel we must support each other.
I have had quite a few (I'm 45) female bosses. And honestly? They are my preference. I've had so many amazing women be my mentors.
Men still dominate in many businesses, so it's not uncommon to be interviewed by men.
I will admit, I can still feel awkward when interviewed by me female peers. I've had talks with other women I've become friends with.... she freely admitted she felt intimidated by me, and I confessed I felt the same.
I think there IS a weird dynamic sometimes between women. In general, I feel we must support each other.
That's good to know. I feel the same way about supporting other women who are in our fields. I'm going into accounting, specifically public accounting which is still largely dominated by men so I would love to have a great woman mentor and work with other women.
I have only once had a female boss and it was at a large restaurant in a casino and she was so catty. I'm not even exaggerating when I say I caught her giving me dirty looks. She was in her 20's and would gossip about the floor staff to other floor staff. She was a lot harder on the female waitresses and flirted with the waiters. The place was an employee mill and the only waiters who had been there for more than a couple months were male, it was the females who either got to become her buddy or get fired.
It was one of my worst jobs because I was treated like **** from day 1.
My job requires me to judge how a person looks and then do my best to make them look better. I have had experiences with gorgeous people who were really just absolutely physically beautiful - who were so rude and ugly and awful to work with that I did my best to just get rid of them as quickly as I could because I hated having to deal with them. Some of the prettiest people have had the worst behavior and attitudes, or they seem to be the most insecure about their looks. Seems weird, but so far I have found it to be true.
And I've also dealt with a lot of people who were not really physically attractive who, after spending a few minutes with them, became really beautiful people who were warm and kind and ended up becoming way more attractive and did a much better job than the physically attractive people that you might have assumed would do a better job.
It's kind of weird, but it is what it is. That whole thing about "beauty comes from within" is actually really true.
Of course, I also get a lot of overweight people who are terribly insecure about how they look, and that's a challenge, too. But I don't treat them poorly simply for being overweight. As long as they are respectful and polite, I will be respectful and polite towards them and do my best to help them.
If you really stop and consider a lot of the famous celebrities out there, who earn their living with their looks, most of them are actually not traditionally very beautiful. Thin, usually, well-dressed sometimes, but quite a high number of them are not your traditional beauties. They are too short, awkward, weird eyes, bushy eyebrows, huge teeth, weird lips, thin hair, too scrawny or too pale or have bony knees or big hands or hairy arms or too short or too long arms, massive feet, etc. But they've become famous and people idolize them regardless of their imperfections, and some people even spend gobs of money and their time and energy trying to look like these awkward celebrities - wearing the same sort of style of clothing, mimicking their hairstyles and makeup, etc. They are perceived as being beautiful even if they actually are rather ordinary-looking or in some cases, not very physically beautiful at all. It's all about the way the image is presented... it's all about what you feel when you look at the image.
People are more protective of pretty women. If something doesn't go their way, they can pull the jealousy card, and everyone will defend them. Unattractive women don't have that privilege.
People are more protective of pretty women. If something doesn't go their way, they can pull the jealousy card, and everyone will defend them. Unattractive women don't have that privilege.
Anyone ever read The Uglies? It's a teen book but I have a soft spot for dystopian novels so I checked it out. It's a future in which everyone gets plastic surgery at 16 to make them hyper beautiful and then live lives of pleasure and excess. But a small group decides to defy society and live naturally (which the government ten tries to destroy, of course).
Anyway, they describe the "pretties" as being so beautiful that you feel dumbstruck in their presence, and you just want to protect them and do things so they'll like you. I think being beautiful is like that, but on a smaller scale. Everyone is drawn to beauty.
Anyone ever read The Uglies? It's a teen book but I have a soft spot for dystopian novels so I checked it out. It's a future in which everyone gets plastic surgery at 16 to make them hyper beautiful and then live lives of pleasure and excess. But a small group decides to defy society and live naturally (which the government ten tries to destroy, of course).
Anyway, they describe the "pretties" as being so beautiful that you feel dumbstruck in their presence, and you just want to protect them and do things so they'll like you. I think being beautiful is like that, but on a smaller scale. Everyone is drawn to beauty.
I am not beautiful, but I do know that, like most people, I have a great smile. The more I smile, the better service I get, and the better overall experience I have in public. Imagine!
That being said, I do think that my physical attributes have been more of a positive than a negative in my life. For instance, I am taller than average, and I prefer that - it's usually an advantage. I have good skin and hair, and expressive eyes, even though like I said, I am not a BEAUTIFUL person - just pleasant looking, I guess, as opposed to jarringly unattractive, like some people unfortunately are.
But I went through a really rough time in my life about ten years ago, with a serious health issue, and I gained about fifty pounds (which I have since lost). I definitely noticed a difference in the way people responded to me -and then I noticed the difference again after I lost the weight.
People DO respond more favorably to people who are more attractive - but then I have to ask myself, is this really true, or do I act differently when I am more self confident and feel better about myself? Maybe so.
I think that some of it comes from us and some from other people - both positive and negative.
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