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[quote=miyu;15690612] This is because they are Asian, and thus hypercritical. I've stopped caring what people think because of this. I am kind of glad actually... (Note: Had side jobs modeling in my 20s to support myself, so I can't be all that hideous.)
A funny side effect of this upbringing is that I get annoyed when people tell me I look good. I think they are lying or are trying to kiss my ass.
That is so funny! I had a very similar upbringing. The difference is that my mom's constant nit-picking on my looks in general made me a very insecure person. I suffered of low self-esteem until i decided that she was just as ugly if not uglier than me on the outside as well as the inside for psychologically messing with my head.
I was never considered great looking when I was younger by others or even myself. My mother used to tell me she thought I was pretty, but I never believed her. Not when I got teased in school to the point where I didnt even want to go. My father never compimented me on my looks, but he's not that type of person. Now I grew into my face, my body and I think I look great. Ha ha I get the last laugh.....
My mom always said I was pretty and smart. As a woman of color, she grew up during a time when darker skinned black women were looked at as ugly. She wanted to make sure I did not have confidence issues so she tried to build me up. Of course I did go through some things during my teens but she always complimented me. Plus I am a deadringer for her. My dad didn't say much period but I knew he loved me.
Gosh, it saddens me to read how some of your parents never complimented you. We were complimented by our parents and knew we were beautiful to them and always got compliments from others. What mom did capital on was our inner beauty. One can be pretty on the outside and ugly on the inside. She encouraged us to always perfect our inner beauty and I'm doing the same w/ my daughter.
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My mother does all the time when I come over to visit (she lives back home in Texas). I visit her 1 time a year and she's always complimenting me on my looks, clothes, and how tall I am (I'm only 5'4", but my mother is 4'11"...LOL!).
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I had a very similar upbringing. The difference is that my mom's constant nit-picking on my looks in general made me a very insecure person. I suffered of low self-esteem until i decided that she was just as ugly if not uglier than me on the outside as well as the inside for psychologically messing with my head.
