Can anyone give me a reason to live in Denver other the ski, outdoors and bike trails? (Winter Park: fit in, apartment)

[CruisingUSA]

So I was joking around with my boyfriend last night and said, "if I don't learn to ski by the end of this season I'm just going to have to move somewhere else".

He actually agreed with me But then again he agrees on most everything I say. He then was saying he moved out here due to the proximity of bike trails and skiing. And I asked him, "why haven't you invited me along to any of these things that you do?" He's like, well you need the equipment yadda yadda.

But then, I began to seriously question my own existence for being here. I've sort of gotten to the point that I feel since I haven't really engaged in any of those activities, then what am I doing here? Not that I don't want to do any of those activities but because I just haven't come across anyone who really engages in them OR if they do, they are like my BF: actively engaged in the sport already, and too busy to show a newbie the ropes.

Coming from a completely different area of the country, it's hard for those things to come naturally to me. But for people who are either from here or moved here elsewhere for those reasons, all of that is like their raison d'etre. And if I have to feel like I have to be pushy and beg to get involved with what the area is known for, makes me wonder if I'm doing it just to fit in or if I really feel like doing it on my own.

And by no means am I implying being biased, but when I talk to my friends in other states about it, they just say; "oh you know Colorado designed for White folks. That's what they go there to do; hike, ski and bike". LOL, but it's kinda true.

[Dreaming of Hawaii]

Your question brings up a few questions:
1. Why did you move to Denver in the first place? What did you think you would be doing there?
2. What kind of activities did you do where you lived before?
3. Why doesn't your boyfriend want to share his activities with you?

BTW, people other than "white people" hike, ski, and bike in Colorado

[Count David]

Originally Posted by Dreaming of Hawaii

BTW, people other than "white people" hike, ski, and bike in Colorado

Yep, one trip to Winter Park would squash that little myth.

[Tim_Barton]

Originally Posted by CruisingUSA

So I was joking around with my boyfriend last night and said, "if I don't learn to ski by the end of this season I'm just going to have to move somewhere else".

Glad to see you final settle and found a man after all the neg talk about how Denver is not this and that and hard to find a man.

Good job!!

[denverian]

I don't do any of those things and I love it here. I do know how to ski, I just don't anymore. I probably will ski again once my boys are old enough to go take lessons.

I live here because I like the city, like having easy access to everything in Urban Denver, and we have great schools for our boys while being in the actual city. Plus it's very gay friendly.

[Mike from back east]

People can hike and bike anywhere in the nation. Denver seems to have put an emphasis on such amenities which makes the city desirable for those who enjoy such things. There's a lot of skiing around the nation too, not just here. Point is, no one needs to do any of those things to feel at home or to ustify being here, or anywhere else. All that really matters is that a person likes the city they live in and can make ends meet.

[DenverLawGal]

Your post caught my eye - I was born and raised in Colorado and am so not into the skiing thing. I'm almost 40 now and I think I've been skiing maybe twice. I am going to have to give in soon though because my husband (from S. Calif.) is pushing me to do it and I'll never live it down if I don't go. But I have no desire and will mainly be looking forward to the hot cocoa, dinner and wine that will surely follow.

I grappled with living here for the rest of my life - because I wanted to live in a bigger city and be emersed in more, well, people and life. But then I traveled to those places and each time I came back here I realized how nice it really is.

Denver is a very clean city. Most of the inhabitants I come across on a daily basis are extremely friendly and kind. I love that Denver has very little crime. I love the weather most of all. Very temperate, not too hot (Miamii!!!), not too cold (Chicago!!). I love the economy here. We do have traffic but not all crazy like Miami. I make a good living here (um, not in Miami) and I have a great home that is affordable. That's why I stay here. Skiing, hiking, and biking have nothing to do with it. (Although I do own a sweet looking beach cruiser I love to ride in the summer).

[CruisingUSA]

Originally Posted by Dreaming of Hawaii

Your question brings up a few questions:
1. Why did you move to Denver in the first place? What did you think you would be doing there?
2. What kind of activities did you do where you lived before?
3. Why doesn't your boyfriend want to share his activities with you?

1. Just for work really. And during the time I was looking for a place, they had cheap hotels (I was paying $25 a day for a studio hotel) that I was able to live in until I found an apartment.

2. Bar hopping (yes, it's a sport), the beach, briefly got into swimming last summer, theme parks.

3. I asked him, and he went into this whole he's an adrenaline junkie and that his rides and ski runs are adrenaline-packed and that he "didn't see a side of me that could handle that" And since I generally mention that I 'shop', which isn't for fun but because I really need whatever I go there for; he mentioned that it would be like me taking someone along to shop who doesn't like to and they'll be bored. Which I had to disagree as I actually do workout and stuff and outdoor stuff is completely different.

Then of course he mentioned the fact that I don't have any equipment either.

Originally Posted by Dreaming of Hawaii

BTW, people other than "white people" hike, ski, and bike in Colorado

LOL, I know. But people who haven't been here think otherwise.

Originally Posted by Tim_Barton

Glad to see you final settle and found a man after all the neg talk about how Denver is not this and that and hard to find a man.

Good job!!

Well, let's not get our hopes up, we aren't 'there' yet. I've already explained to him the other day that I would like to keep my options open at this point because there seems to be some compatibility concerns. I'm actually considering a different guy who lives in the next state over, who on his last visit here seemed much more inclusive in his activities.

[JBPisgah]

I agree with law gal. Best reasons for the inactive to be in Denver are weather, high quality of life, and somewhat affordable. Your boyfriend's attitude seems very Western to me - nice, but also a bit flat, distant, indifferent.

[davidv]

I'll just answer the question you posed first:

Q: Can anyone give me a reason to live in Denver other the ski, outdoors and bike trails?

A: Because you like it here.

You don't have to like any of those things to like Denver. If you don't like Denver, than you should find a new place to live.