How can a Christian fall into sexual sin and not feel guilty? (messages, churches)
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I'm trying to wrap my head around a situation that's taken place in my family and I'm struggling to understand.
My sister has been married for two years. She's been a Christian for about 10 years and until recently worked fulltime in her church as a youth ministries leader.
This week I found out that she's been having an affair with a coworker for the past eight months. The coworker's wife recently found some of my sister's text messages on his phone and contacted the pastor. The pastor confronted them and they confessed and were fired.
My sister refused to tell her husband about the affair so the pastor went to their home and gave him the news. He cried like a baby and said he would take my sister back if she repented. She refused.
She says she's met her "soul mate" and that she only loves her husband as "a brother." Her boyfriend has left his wife and four kids. They've moved in together and plan to divorce their spouses and get married.
My sister feels no guilt for what she's done. She's acting like it's no big deal. She's even asked my aunt if she could bring her boyfriend to my cousin's wedding next month. Unbelievable!
What could have made her do something like this? And why doesn't she feel guilty? Does it mean that she never really gave her heart to Christ? Could she be possessed by a lustful spirit? Is there any chance that God could audibly speak to her to convict her of her sin? Any insight would be appreciated.
For now, my husband and I are praying that God will change her heart before she files for divorce.
I think everything hinges on varying degrees when it comes to sinfulness. That she involved a family man with kids makes it more weighty. If this was an intimate encounter between an engaged couple prior to the marriage date, then... well ... that happens a lot. I don't think sins are evaluated on an absolute scale...like the lists we were handed prior to First Communion. The gravity of sin is highly contextual. If your sister has no guilt, then something is off with her processing. You know your family dynamics better than we do. Your sister has boundary problems. On CD, all we get is snippets. I also know of an analogous marriage that ended where my childhood friend's sister cheated on her husband with a guy she worked with. Those two are now married. Their marriage was built on a bedrock of deceit and they are still both dealing with the guilt years later.
The best thing believers can do is ;..1st...Repent and forgive the lady and have the husband repent and forgive the lady for the adultery, for Jesus ....2nd .Pray and ask Father God to forgive the sins of this lady....3rd...prayers to plead the blood of Jesus Christ judgment were all blessing come......4th..Prayer to bind the demons and loose and brake all curses that are responsible for this divisions and trust from this issue in Jesus mighty name .....5th ..Prayer and command Jesus to make a plan for the marriages of these two families, and don`t stop praying for a plan until Jesus spirit confirms the plan is victory........ These prayers will bring victory when faith with the confidence in the Lord is there ...... Doing it by the worlds way will prove disaster...
I'm trying to wrap my head around a situation that's taken place in my family and I'm struggling to understand.
My sister has been married for two years. She's been a Christian for about 10 years and until recently worked fulltime in her church as a youth ministries leader.
This week I found out that she's been having an affair with a coworker for the past eight months. The coworker's wife recently found some of my sister's text messages on his phone and contacted the pastor. The pastor confronted them and they confessed and were fired.
My sister refused to tell her husband about the affair so the pastor went to their home and gave him the news. He cried like a baby and said he would take my sister back if she repented. She refused.
She says she's met her "soul mate" and that she only loves her husband as "a brother." Her boyfriend has left his wife and four kids. They've moved in together and plan to divorce their spouses and get married.
My sister feels no guilt for what she's done. She's acting like it's no big deal. She's even asked my aunt if she could bring her boyfriend to my cousin's wedding next month. Unbelievable!
What could have made her do something like this? And why doesn't she feel guilty? Does it mean that she never really gave her heart to Christ? Could she be possessed by a lustful spirit? Is there any chance that God could audibly speak to her to convict her of her sin? Any insight would be appreciated.
For now, my husband and I are praying that God will change her heart before she files for divorce.
I suggest that you back out of your sister's business. She has obviously made a conscious choice to violate her marriage vows and has chosen to leave her husband and family behind. God gives us a brain to make good choices with and a will to make those choices unassisted whether they be good or bad, it is on us and no one else. The more you try to intervene in your sisters life the further away she will go so you have to decide now if you want to lose her for the rest of your life which is what will happen if you get in the middle of all this. God won't fix what he feels is not fixable and regardless of how hard you pray for what YOU want to see happen, he more than likely will let her use the brain he gave her. It is out of your hands.
She could be bi-polar...My sister-in-law did something similar, didn't marry the fellow, but had an affair with the next door neighbor and then told her sister, my wife, my wife said she really didn't seem guilty about it and at the time she wasn't on any meds for her condition, however, my wife told her that she must tell her husband and let the chips fall where they may and that she would give a week to tell him or she was going to...She did and they divorced, but it was also found out that her husband was involved in internet porn and 900 number porn...He always got to the phone bills before her and took out the pages that detailed those 900 number on them...So, there seemed to be trash going on on both sides...All I can say as Paul did to the Corinthians is, 'hand her over to the Devil so that she may learn not to blaspheme'...Put her away from yourselves...I believe that was in first Corinthians, in second Corinthians, Paul told the church not to be harsh with an individual that repented and accept him back with love lest he give up and go away for good (I am para-phrasing)...I think Paul was referring to the same fellow from first Corinthians...So, obviously his tactic worked...A little leaven leaveneth the whole...
I'm trying to wrap my head around a situation that's taken place in my family and I'm struggling to understand.
My sister has been married for two years. She's been a Christian for about 10 years and until recently worked fulltime in her church as a youth ministries leader.
This week I found out that she's been having an affair with a coworker for the past eight months. The coworker's wife recently found some of my sister's text messages on his phone and contacted the pastor. The pastor confronted them and they confessed and were fired.
My sister refused to tell her husband about the affair so the pastor went to their home and gave him the news. He cried like a baby and said he would take my sister back if she repented. She refused.
She says she's met her "soul mate" and that she only loves her husband as "a brother." Her boyfriend has left his wife and four kids. They've moved in together and plan to divorce their spouses and get married.
My sister feels no guilt for what she's done. She's acting like it's no big deal. She's even asked my aunt if she could bring her boyfriend to my cousin's wedding next month. Unbelievable!
What could have made her do something like this? And why doesn't she feel guilty? Does it mean that she never really gave her heart to Christ? Could she be possessed by a lustful spirit? Is there any chance that God could audibly speak to her to convict her of her sin? Any insight would be appreciated.
For now, my husband and I are praying that God will change her heart before she files for divorce.
A good lesson for the kids in youth group.
The concept that his guy is leaving is wife and four kids is pretty amazing. Talk about some destructive elements going on. All stuff God hates. It sounds like the affair was with a church staff member too. He's leaving his wife too? The thorns of the modern Apostate Christian "churches". Ask her to check what type of fruits she thinks she has on her branches.
I think the concept of her (and the guy for that matter) not being repentant in this is a huge red flag. Prayer is your best device.
I feel bad for the Christian Husband as well as the wife and her children. Four kids just had a lesson on hurt.
No temptation has come upon you except that of the children of men, but God is faithful, who shall not allow you to be tempted more than whatever you are able, but shall make an exit for your temptation, so that you can endure. 1 Cor 10:13
Bad choices have consequences. I think the key to not falling into this sin is in making the choice to turn to God for strength when the temptation comes your way. There is always a choice involved -- turn to God, or be overtaken with sin. What seems "wonderful" to someone in the moment very well may be the source of many tears and anguish in the fullness of time.
It's very hard for me b/c I love my brother-in-law. He's a beautiful person and loves my sister dearly. He's a devoted Christian who works full time with troubled public-school students and has made countless missionary trips to South America to build school houses.
This isn't anything I would ever expect from my sister. As far as I know, she's never been intimate with anyone other than my brother in law (until now, of course). And, she's very sweet and extremely sensitive. It's as if she's lost her mind.
Unfortunately, we have family members who aren't Christian and don't see anything wrong with what's she's done. It just mirrors what they watch on TV all day. So, they've been acting as if everything is cool and those of us who have a problem with it are "out of touch." My dad has even provided rent money b/c he feels badly that they lost their jobs.
Hopefully, God will convict her and she'll flee before becoming more entangled with this man.
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