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Originally Posted by LookinForMayberry
Some people seem to need to be victims. Maybe their mom's picked them up every time they whined, and they started thinking it's up to others to solve their troubles. I've noticed for the last several decades parents don't seem to teach their kids independence and self-reliance.
I am not a sympathetic person. We were raised to accept our circumstances and find a way to overcome unpleasantness without bothering others about it. As infants and toddler's there wasn't much mollycoddling. Mom could tell by the pitch of our pleas whether we were actually in need.
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I was one of seven kids. I fractured my left arm when I was five. I came in the house, crying, and my mother said, "Run some cold water over it". I remember that I used to sit on the toilet and would normally use my left hand to get the toilet paper, which was on the roller thing on the wall to the left of the toilet, but I had to reach over with my right hand instead.
Three days after I hurt my arm, my mother saw me struggling to dress myself with one hand and asked me why I doing that, and I told her that my arm still hurt. She took me to the emergency room where they did an X-ray, saw that my arm was fractured, and then put a cast and sling on it.
I remember a nice lady with a clipboard asking me to tell her again how I hurt my arm even though the doctor and the nurse had already asked me, and I loved that I was getting all this attention. I learned later in life that my mother was being questioned because there had been cases of child abuse in the news even way back then, and they wanted to know why she waited three days to take me to the doctor. LOL.
But I found that I am also an unsympathetic person by nature, probably because we weren't coddled and babied. My father was disabled--lost both his lower legs in WWII, and
he didn't sit around feeling sorry for himself. It's something I've had to work on all my life.
Sometimes it comes back to bite me. I was attending this little church for a while, and I got to know this woman that I frankly took to be a fraud in many ways. For example, she altered her Hispanic last name to make it look as though she was Irish, and she would also claim that she was part Jewish, Greek, Native American, everything but Puerto Rican, which is what she was. Why lie about who you are?
She worked at a department store, but she said she was really an RN but felt that she was only meant to be an RN to take care of her mother, who had died, and she didn't want to be a nurse anymore. That sounded like bs to me. Why would you work there if you were an RN. Then she got fired from the department store for too many sick days, and she decided to go to this tech/computer school. But then she kept getting sick and had to drop out of that school. She also wanted to be a deacon in our church, and the church paid for her to take the classes, and she had to drop out because she kept getting sick. So by now I figured I'm on to her schtick. She just "got sick" every time she started something that she couldn't finish. Whenever she "got sick", I just inwardly rolled my eyes.
Fast forward to mid-2020. I get a call from a friend of hers that she's gone to the hospital having trouble breathing. We're in the throes of COVID, so I am thinking, "here we go again. She's jumping on the COVID bandwagon for attention."
Get the call the next day--she's dead at the age of 46. Negative for COVID, but it turned out she had a heart condition that she kept quiet, and THAT'S why she was always getting sick. I'm going to hell.