Have you ever failed on a job and relive it over and over and over! (non-profit, employers)

[Refugee56]

I once had a dream job as a Human Resources Director for one of the most prestigious employers in the area. When I got that job I jumped for joy. It was the highlight of my career. I had arrived!

The pay was great, I had a huge office, lots of responsibility, great coworkers, traveled first class and tons of prestige. But the boss was never happy with my work. He constantly complained and I was always on performance warning. My performance according to him was marginal. Not bad enough to get fired but not good either. I worked so hard to please that difficult man.

Finally he got tired of it all and at my two years anniversary, I was pulled into his office and fired. I had ten minutes to clear out my things and leave. No severance pay or reference.

It took me almost a year to find a new job and I never was able to make as much money or be in a similar type job ever. Because of the location of my old employer, I am forced to drive by it all the time. I am always reminded of my failure in that job as I drive to work and pass by my old office.

Anyone else fail in a previous job and still affected by it?

[NJ Chutzpah]

May I ask what job it was

Were you doing a lousy job for two straight years?

if so, they gave you plenty of chances so they must have liked you

I have made mistakes, and I relive them all the time

sometimes I think I am depressed, but as i continue to gloat I start to feel better about it for some reason

It is like a strange cycle, I start thinking about bad things, but then it all gets better, and this in in a matter of one hour

[CA central coast]

Yes, all the time. I say the three of us get into therapy together.

[NJ Chutzpah]

whos gonna pay

[artsyguy]

Your employers need to pay for your group therapy.

Originally Posted by NJ Chutzpah

whos gonna pay

[1AngryTaxPayer]

Everyone gets sucker-punched at a job sometime in their life. It's not a career, it's a job

Just remember that and you'll be fine.

[ShannonMilligan]

Oh yes...

A few years ago I was hired as an admin assistant at a non-profit. Within 2 months I was promoted to a communications coordinator and was given a salary boost. A few months later the executive director (who had been nice to me for months, but who I was warn by others was Dr Jeckle/Hyde personality) called me in his office and said he was going to demote me b/c I was trying to get pregnant and that he could afford to lose me as an admin assistant but not as a communications coordinator down the line. I quit on the spot. Couldn't turn to anyone really. My word against his. Took him to the board of directors but I think all they did was talk to him.
I think about this place all the time. We ended up moving out of state a little less than a year later, but still. I loved the work, the people I helped, most of the other co-workers. I too felt like I was sucker punched. I loved this place despite the fact that I was sexually harassed by a few and a few other weird things. Just sad. I think it gets to me b/c I didn't do anything wrong, HE DID, and yet I had to leave. (I couldn't stay there and let him do that to me)