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We have come to the decision that the rehearsal dinner will only include the wedding party and family/family from out of town. After a lot of thought, we all agree except for my husband LOL that we really don't want to have "two weddings"
We have come to the decision that the rehearsal dinner will only include the wedding party and family/family from out of town. After a lot of thought, we all agree except for my husband LOL that we really don't want to have "two weddings"
Thanks to everyone for the feedback.
That sounds great and is very understandable. Most of our family was from out of town, so the groom's family (who decides, not the bride), had the wedding party, pastor and wife, and immediate family members of the bride and groom (parents, grandparents, siblings). They decided no children, so all the grandkids were babysat by aunts and uncles who came to town.
What was ironic is that the groom's family was very much into "toasting" and the rehearsal dinner lasted almost 4 hours, as long as the wedding the next night. Very nice, but a bit too much for us.
That sounds great and is very understandable. Most of our family was from out of town, so the groom's family (who decides, not the bride), had the wedding party, pastor and wife, and immediate family members of the bride and groom (parents, grandparents, siblings). They decided no children, so all the grandkids were babysat by aunts and uncles who came to town.
What was ironic is that the groom's family was very much into "toasting" and the rehearsal dinner lasted almost 4 hours, as long as the wedding the next night. Very nice, but a bit too much for us.
We were just at a wedding this past summer that was heavy on the toasts which were speeches.
Very religious families as well so it was a toss between attending a sermon and over the top.
The mother of the bride gave a 28 minute speech at the wedding which started at her pregnancy with the bride and ended with the wedding. In the end the toasts/speeches/sermons lasted over an hour in total. We noted people sitting at tables with their eyes closed.
One thing I have learned over the years. Follow the 3 minute toast rule. If you have that much to say write your recipient a letter!
We have come to the decision that the rehearsal dinner will only include the wedding party and family/family from out of town. After a lot of thought, we all agree except for my husband LOL that we really don't want to have "two weddings"
We have come to the decision that the rehearsal dinner will only include the wedding party and family/family from out of town. After a lot of thought, we all agree except for my husband LOL that we really don't want to have "two weddings"
Thanks to everyone for the feedback.
I think that's the perfect decision and with such a volume of people it would feel like two weddings. That definitely isn't the point of a rehearsal dinner.
I think that's the perfect decision and with such a volume of people it would feel like two weddings. That definitely isn't the point of a rehearsal dinner.
I'm just nosy now, why doesn't hubby agree?
Hubby feels that is it extremely rude not to include out of town guests at the rehearsal. The etiquette rules of our generation state that you do.
Hubby feels that is it extremely rude not to include out of town guests at the rehearsal. The etiquette rules of our generation state that you do.
Etiquette is often so mixed on these issues. Personally I think it's a kindness to include out of town family because ultimately the rehearsal dinner is for the wedding party. I feel that often gets lost in the wedding industrial complex.
Most of the weddings I know about the kids came back to town for the wedding. I don't know anyone that had the wedding where they moved to and expect everyone else to travel.
Most of the weddings I know about the kids came back to town for the wedding. I don't know anyone that had the wedding where they moved to and expect everyone else to travel.
The wedding is in the state the bride is from. Not the town she is from because she only had a few family members still living in that town. Her immediate family doesn't live there anymore.
Even if it wasn't many brides and grooms choose to have weddings at different destinations.
The wedding is in the state the bride is from. Not the town she is from because she only had a few family members still living in that town. Her immediate family doesn't live there anymore.
Even if it wasn't many brides and grooms choose to have weddings at different destinations.
Things aren't always so straight forward.
My niece is from NJ but had moved to the Boston area ten years earlier. Her husband is from Montreal.
They had their wedding in western Massachusetts, which made it fair for traveling for both families as well as their friends where they live.
They scoped out the area for hotels and sent along the information in the invitations.
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