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I do feel "marginalized" by the younger people (even those 55 years old/ I'm 76). However, I do realize that I am not important to my children, my grandchildren, to any corporate world, nor to the church, nor to ???. I have basically finished my accomplishments on this earth but I do expect all humans to treat me (and all humans) with respect, courtesy, and fairness. My Asian daughter-in-law is the absolute best you could ask for. She makes sure I am talked to, fed, entertained, walked, etc. It is a cultural approach. I do appreciate it. My other American daughters-in-laws are decent, polite, courteous, etc., but the Asian one is just terrific. Face it, we oldster may have some wisdom but I trust the younger generation. I feel respect but also feel marginalized.
It's not ageism. Think of the things we show young people.
How to slow down the line at the register.
How to blow our nose in a restaurant.
How to refuse to use a cane or walker when we need one.
How to stare at tattoos and mixed race couples.
How to tip poorly.
How to give advice without being asked.
Aww I love those points!
Adults who demonstrate manners ...
Adults who decide their own medical care
Adults who understand that body modifications don't make the person cool ...
Adults who are in tune to a transaction ..alert. active.
That a penny saved is a penny earned...tipping isn't saving.
Respect is a given til the person shows reasons not.
Yes I was raised to respect my elders...more so in manners ..it's a human thing .
I do feel "marginalized" by the younger people (even those 55 years old/ I'm 76). However, I do realize that I am not important to my children, my grandchildren, to any corporate world, nor to the church, nor to ???. I have basically finished my accomplishments on this earth but I do expect all humans to treat me (and all humans) with respect, courtesy, and fairness. My Asian daughter-in-law is the absolute best you could ask for. She makes sure I am talked to, fed, entertained, walked, etc. It is a cultural approach. I do appreciate it. My other American daughters-in-laws are decent, polite, courteous, etc., but the Asian one is just terrific. Face it, we oldster may have some wisdom but I trust the younger generation. I feel respect but also feel marginalized.
I'm not surprised your ADIL is sensitive to your needs...
It's a cultural thing; the Asian people look at society one way, and Western folks, well...you get the picture.
Your lucky to have her in your corner.
I'm not surprised your ADIL is sensitive to your needs...
It's a cultural thing; the Asian people look at society one way, and Western folks, well...you get the picture.
Your lucky to have her in your corner.
I had a class in graduate school, don't remember which class - where we studied Western versus Asian cultures from the perspective of how each viewed "I" and "we." I Western cultures people resonate with "I being separate and apart from "we." In Asian cultures, the perception is identifying more with the "we." (To put it very simply).
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