Chapter TWO: Women Retiring Alone. Did you Do it?? (communities, social security, federal)
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Originally Posted by Mightyqueen801
...How many older, retired single men do you know? There are far more older, retired single women.
It Dependson your circle of friends. I have more single friends that are males who have 'somewhat' adapted to aging alone. Granted, statistics will easily favor majority of women being single and aged, and they are usually handling it quite well. Women are used to forming relationships, men +/-.
Both groups have the capability of making it work. Both groups have challenges.
I will have to say that I hear the single men acknowledge loneliness more so than the single women. Many of the guys are real 'softies' when they are able to let down their guard. They really do miss their partners and friends. At some points in life you lose more friends per yr than you make.
When spending time with elder lonely men, I just try to bring joy through those memories of friends and partners, and we laugh a lot together. Seems humor and food are good remedies for many of life's challenges. NEVER under estimate the power of food when dealing with the Male of ANY species.
Last edited by StealthRabbit; 05-02-2013 at 10:15 PM..
Oh gosh. What I meant by this thread was a continuation of the very first post: Women retiring alone and moving to a new place alone. I had hoped to attract some of the women who had posted on the first thread to see how their plans had actually worked out, or not. I guess too many of those women have indeed moved on to another phase in their lives and are not on here any longer. Just wanted to know if women who had planned, researched and faced the fears of going somewhere alone to live actually DID IT. My idea truly is a flop.
It Dependson your circle of friends. I have more single friends that are males who have 'somewhat' adapted to aging alone. Granted, statistics will easily favor majority of women being single and aged, and they are usually handling it quite well. Women are used to forming relationships, men +/-.
Both groups have the capability of making it work. Both groups have challenges.
I will have to say that I hear the single men acknowledge loneliness more so than the single women. Many of the guys are real 'softies' when they are able to let down their guard. They really do miss their partners and friends. At some points in life you lose more friends per yr than you make.
When spending time with elder lonely men, I just try to bring joy through those memories of friends and partners, and we laugh a lot together. Seems humor and food are good remedies for many of life's challenges. NEVER under estimate the power of food when dealing with the Male of ANY species.
Took me a while to get the Depends reference. Hehehe, good one.
I was actually looking more at my mother's circle of friends. She's in her 80's, and almost everyone she knows is a widow.
At my age (54), I'm still in the world where almost everyone I know is a couple. People my age who are planning retirement are planning their moves in twos, and there isn't really anyone I can discuss the subject of the thread with, so that's why it interested me.
Like the OP, I would have enjoyed hearing their tales.
I ‘m single woman who plans to retire in two years at age 60 and relocate to a different part of the country. So I am very interested in hearing the stories of other single people (both male and female) who did the same. I especially enjoyed reading LauraC and Caladiums’ thoughts on retiring early. I’m a little apprehensive about retiring at 60 as I have always been career oriented but want to retire while my health is good and I can enjoy travel and other activities.
Luckily I have some good friends at the new location but we won’t be seeing each other every day. And I am a real introvert who does not make friends easily so will have to make an effort to meet people. What overwhelms me initially is the thought of having to prepare my house for sell, sell it, plan the moving of my household goods and furniture, finding a house to rent for the first year in my new location, and physically driving the 1500 miles with 2 cats in tow. The last time I moved more than 20 miles was when I went 300 miles to college with a loaded VW bug at age 17.
I ‘m single woman who plans to retire in two years at age 60 and relocate to a different part of the country. So I am very interested in hearing the stories of other single people (both male and female) who did the same. I especially enjoyed reading LauraC and Caladiums’ thoughts on retiring early. I’m a little apprehensive about retiring at 60 as I have always been career oriented but want to retire while my health is good and I can enjoy travel and other activities.
Luckily I have some good friends at the new location but we won’t be seeing each other every day. And I am a real introvert who does not make friends easily so will have to make an effort to meet people. What overwhelms me initially is the thought of having to prepare my house for sell, sell it, plan the moving of my household goods and furniture, finding a house to rent for the first year in my new location, and physically driving the 1500 miles with 2 cats in tow. The last time I moved more than 20 miles was when I went 300 miles to college with a loaded VW bug at age 17.
Popcorn, I'll be moving from Albuquerque to Central Oregon. I like New Mexico but am looking forward to moving to the mountain city of Bend and escape the hot summers and drought. Also wanted a smaller city than Albuquerque but large enough to have nice amenities.
I ‘m single woman who plans to retire in two years at age 60 and relocate to a different part of the country. So I am very interested in hearing the stories of other single people (both male and female) who did the same. I especially enjoyed reading LauraC and Caladiums’ thoughts on retiring early. I’m a little apprehensive about retiring at 60 as I have always been career oriented but want to retire while my health is good and I can enjoy travel and other activities.
Luckily I have some good friends at the new location but we won’t be seeing each other every day. And I am a real introvert who does not make friends easily so will have to make an effort to meet people. What overwhelms me initially is the thought of having to prepare my house for sell, sell it, plan the moving of my household goods and furniture, finding a house to rent for the first year in my new location, and physically driving the 1500 miles with 2 cats in tow. The last time I moved more than 20 miles was when I went 300 miles to college with a loaded VW bug at age 17.
Take it step by step.
You can do it ... !!
Not easy, but try at least.
Nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Day by day !!
Lenora:
US Census surveys are a joke - you should know that.
Women in the US have it made.
Don't think so, travel a little OUTSIDE the US ....
What's the old saying?
" .... Women have half the money and all the ____. "
And in most countries outside America, women have no money and all the ____.
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on your circle of friends.
I have more single friends that are males who have 'somewhat' adapted to aging alone. Granted, statistics will easily favor majority of women being single and aged, and they are usually handling it quite well. Women are used to forming relationships, men +/-.
