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It is often the case that one or more parties in a marriage is unwilling to reconcile. This is a symptom of a greater problem; namely,
Great point. And people that are willing to just give up that easily miss out on so much. I've been married 25 years. I can honestly say I'm much much closer to my wife than I ever thought possible. Marriage really is worth it.
Courtship was the time during which the MANY issues of compatibility were ironed out WITHOUT engaging in sexual congress. Sad that it ceased to be a factor in choosing a marriage partner. My wife and I courted for 6 years before making the commitment. EscalaMike is a firm believer in MATRIMONY (not mere marriage) with procreation as the purpose and householder status as the goal which mirrors your concept of Divinity as the witness.
Sexuality and sex is not sin. But one can get addicted to it like anything else such as drugs and alcohol. It is the addiction that is the problem that drives the actions that cause misery.
Do you view an overwhelming number of failed marriages as being beneficial to society at large?
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I don't think that's as easy to answer as you apparently do. I think of all those parents who stay together "for the sake of the children" who then have to live in a house of disharmony.
The actual problem resides in the selection process that is actually aptly described by the phrase "falling in love." While it is a powerful emotional experience that produces strong attraction, it is a pernicious and unreliable method of choosing a "life partner," especially when it is prompted primarily by superficial physical and sexual characteristics. The abandonment of a courting period (years) almost guarantees the failure to detect incompatibilities, IMO.
The actual problem resides in the selection process that is actually aptly described by the phrase "falling in love." While it is a powerful emotional experience that produces strong attraction, it is a pernicious and unreliable method of choosing a "life partner," especially when it is prompted primarily by superficial physical and sexual characteristics. The abandonment of a courting period (years) almost guarantees the failure to detect incompatibilities, IMO.
Living together in an "un-marriage" would also detect incompatibilities.
The actual problem resides in the selection process that is actually aptly described by the phrase "falling in love." While it is a powerful emotional experience that produces strong attraction, it is a pernicious and unreliable method of choosing a "life partner," especially when it is prompted primarily by superficial physical and sexual characteristics. The abandonment of a courting period (years) almost guarantees the failure to detect incompatibilities, IMO.
Living together in an "un-marriage" would also detect incompatibilities.
along with introducing the possibility for all kinds of additional complications and/or problems.
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Courtship was the time during which the MANY issues of compatibility were ironed out WITHOUT engaging in sexual congress. Sad that it ceased to be a factor in choosing a marriage partner. My wife and I courted for 6 years before making the commitment. EscalaMike is a firm believer in MATRIMONY (not mere marriage) with procreation as the purpose and householder status as the goal which mirrors your concept of Divinity as the witness.
