If they do differ, Do you find yourself being pickier IRL or in OLD?
I have a couple of acquaintances that have profiles on dating websites. I am going to speak about one in particular although both cases are similar. On the sites she specifically requests to date men w/o kids and in her age range or younger. IRL however, she dates men with children that are much older than she is. She is hopeful that at least one of them wants to take the relationship to the next level. She comments on how she would "close her accounts" if they ever made that move.
I've never done OLD but I have created profiles just to see the photos of the women on the sites. When filling out the criteria I remember thinking how much the process was similar to ordering a computer from the Dell website: add $250 per 8mb of RAM, add $400 for a 17", subtract ... It almost felt like I was ordering a mail-order bride. I knew it was a necessary evil
, to be able to manage the matches but I was being asked to choose when IRL I really didn't think about these things before engaging in a conversation. And I know for a fact that the women with which I've had long relationships, 2+ years, probably wouldn't have shown up.
I am a small government conservative(more libertarian actually) yet in the last 20 years I've only dated one young lady that, I believe, was conservative. Everyone else was left leaning if not far left leaning:they would not have shown up in my list of matches. Which is sad because in an attempt to narrow down my choices the system may actually be excluding a potentially good match. While these relationships didn't last, I most certainly was enriched and learned a lot about life and myself.
There are preferences and then there are deal breakers. I prefer a red head but if you are a compassionate person we could always swing by the pharmacy and get you Clairol Nice 'n Easy 6.5R. But no amount of fiery red hair is going to make me overlook your lack of compassion. Since the things that really matter have to be confirmed IRL anyway, lightening up on the superficial requirements may benefit those doing OLD.
I apologize for my rambling I just wanted to get this in before weezerfan84 shuts this online dating debate down