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You didn’t answer my question; who is bullying you or trying to control you? That said, an angry and combative stance is not a psychologically healthy approach to such (nor would it be welcomed into the workplace, for that matter).
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Originally Posted by Pitt Chick
I don't see the connections between that and proper table manners.
Heh, exactly.
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You didn’t answer my question; who is bullying you or trying to control you? That said, an angry and combative stance is not a psychologically healthy approach to such (nor would it be welcomed into the workplace, for that matter).
I don't see how listing people's names is going to help
I gave you an answer and you refuse to accept it
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Originally Posted by DubbleT
You can say no and still be polite about it. The two things aren't mutually exclusive, even when people want you to do something you don't want to do.
Yeah, sounds like a problem. You don't know table manners and don't care. It's fine but if you're actually at a restaurant that has a salad, fish/fruit, and dinner forks you really do need to know table manners. If a relative is trying to help you out since you don't know table manners, there is a better way to handle it than telling them you eat with your hands and stuff it.
I think his example of the dinner table was an unfortunate one, because like it or not, the whole "proper fork" thing is a little anachronistic (the napkin thins, though, spot on!). Unless of course the event took place at a formal sit-down place and/or the OP was truly eating like a neanderthal (doesn't seem the case).
In any event, walking around with a short fuse isn't a good look for anyone.
We are in this world with all different kinds of people with all different kind of backgrounds and motives for doing/saying what they do/say.
The relatives who tried to influence you into proper table manners...do you know THEIR story...and WHY they do what they do? Was proper table etiquette literally beaten into their heads as kids?
Can't walk around thinking that EVERY time someone tries to 'tell you what to do' that they're trying to 'control' you.
We are in this world with all different kinds of people with all different kind of backgrounds and motives for doing/saying what they do/say.
The relatives who tried to influence you into proper table manners...do you know THEIR story...and WHY they do what they do? Was proper table etiquette literally beaten into their heads as kids?
Can't walk around thinking that EVERY time someone tries to 'tell you what to do' that they're trying to 'control' you.
That attitude won't get you very far in life.
That's really not my concern and if a cousin said to me, "Excuse me but you should use this fork for... and place your napkin on your lap like this..." I'd say fine and may or may not take their suggestions. But I wouldn't let it ruin my dinner.
The same with those who ask more than once at a social gathering why I'm not drinking. I say for health reasons and if that's not good enough I move away.
But again, I wouldn't get upset or let it ruin my evening.
This thread headed nowhere fast. Consequently, it's now closed.
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