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My great grandma doesn't mean anything when she uses the other N word either, she grew up using it as a polite term, doesn't make it any less offensive.
Glad it wasnt just my grandma. She used to use a version of the N word because that's just how they described folks then. It was not meant as a derogatory term and she was shocked and didnt understand when she was told one could no longer say that word or any version thereof. She would be 115 today. She passed at 104 and 11 months.
Hey, I accidentally dialed a wrong number once, and it was answered by a ma'am in Tennessee. I took the opportunity of saying how hospitality and kind Southern women were.
She answered with "think yewwww".
Then she explained to me that that is not a kind response - they just do it to politely knock you down.
Years later, a female, young, new hire, store clerk got frustrated when I asked her "how many packages do you have"? - After she told me they were out of the cartons. So, I then said, "Think Yewwww! - at which she pushed a button, that brought down her supervisor. After explaining this to the supervisor, I was able to buy a few packages of cheap Eagles cigarettes.
I just love learning things.
This is hilarious. I must try this.
To answer your question OP, I would agree with the poster who said "Talk to me with respect". Nothing wrong with that.
I'm a bit more direct and would say "Check that attitude", and stay silent until she apologizes.
And yet...again, your title was about cantankerous women. Not cantankerous people. You say you're just stating what you've seen. You've never seen a cantankerous man?
I kinda think you might be the cantankerous, bitter, pot stirrer in this thread.
I was responding to the thread & it concerned cantankerous women. That's why my comments were about them. I worked with about 30 women in that office, in various departments, who I was very fond of. I am still friends with several of them 27 years later. If I were starting up an office of any sort today, these are the first people I would call to invite onboard. They kept the place going through turmoil of all kinds. There were hundreds of women at the company but I didn't know all of them.
Yes, I have dealt with a good many cantankerous men. Our department head at that office was a thug in a 3 piece suit. Field managers were often men with overinflated egos.
Sorry to shoot your bucket full of holes. Home Depot is having a sale on them so you can get a new one cheap.
I'd like to think of myself as a gentleman. I try to be cordial and polite in general, but especially around women (it's how I was raised). But being an adult means sometimes you have to deal with women who are not very ladylike.
I recently encountered this at work. I was speaking with a woman in another department and from the outset she was a little rude. Normally I wouldn't pay it any mind, but she kept overtalking me and started to raise her voice. I had to catch myself before I use some choice words with her, but I just managed to coast the call to a close and hurried up and got off.
Now, this isn't my boss or anything like that. I don't know what her problem is but apparently she's known for being "feisty". When I was told that by one of co-workers, again, I had to catch myself before I said some choice words. Like ohhhhh she thinks she's some kind of bad-ass....
Ahem.
Like I said, at my age it takes a lot to get me riled up and upset, but that's only the result of good home training. I actually can have a pretty bad temper when I get there, which is why I was really wanting this chick to relax.
But the thing that bugs me is, I feel like women like her try to present as "tough" when they're dealing with men in part so they won't come off weak, but also because they know a man (at least in a professional setting) can't match their energy the same way a woman could. A woman is under no obligation to let another woman talk over her and loud talk her. But as a man, it's almost seen as threatening if you talk to a woman like that, even if that's how she's conducting herself.
Calling a coworker a chick, expecting colleagues (or anyone) to act "ladylike" (read: different standards for women), and even hinting at using "choice words" in a professional setting because someone overtalks you don't exactly scream good "home training."
If I said choice words for everyone who talked over me in a professional setting then, well, I'd probably be the "chick" you are describing.
Calling a coworker a chick, expecting colleagues (or anyone) to act "ladylike" (read: different standards for women), and even hinting at using "choice words" in a professional setting because someone overtalks you don't exactly scream good "home training."
If I said choice words for everyone who talked over me in a professional setting then, well, I'd probably be the "chick" you are describing.
Good home training =/= pure thoughts. It means you have sense enough not to act on impulse and speak with decorum even if someone is being rude.
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