Attachment Parents

Hi everyone! I've been reading the messages and I might be able to help regarding cereighnah's problem with Lachlan talking back. I teach a Love and Logic parenting course called, Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun". The Love and Logic approach to whining and arguing is that we shouldn't have to be victims when our children play Brain Drain, i.e., try to drain us of energy with all their arguments. The solution is to have one-- just one- response, then stick to it no matter what. A good one is "I know". This is called the broken record technique because whatever they say to disagree, you keep saying it like a broken record. But you have to say it with genuine empathy. Empathy is the key. If you deliver it with sarcasm or with anger, you become the bad guy. If you become the bad guy, the resentment in the child is eventually going to come out in a very negative way. Empathy has got to be the foundation of any discipline you use. Remember, eventually, your child will be selecting your nursing home. If you've based your relationship with your child on empathy rather than anger, he'll pick a somewhat nicer nursing home for you!

Hi, I'm new here and like the sound of the foundation of the group. I'm having what I believe is a behavioral issue with pants wetting that I'm hoping someone might be able to talk with me about addressing? Any takers?

I think it's fine to co-sleep with a child. I think it's how it has been done for most of time in most of the world. It's just our modern, Western society that thinks it's weird.

Hi, I am the mother of a 6 year old and she co-sleeps with me. I love having her there next to me. Does anyone else think its ok to co-sleep with a child?

This is Cora again.... my new business brought me to the forum but I wanted to share some of me aside from work. I have a son and a step son......they are both 5. Anyone else have any 1/2 siblings soo close together in age?

Hi everyone, I have recently sent my two children to live with their father as the older one is ready for hight school.i would like to talk to parents as i fear losing touch with them

Hello everyone my name is Chrissy and I am a daycare provider/owner and a Mom away from mom of many. I love talking with others about children and sharing my ideas and feelings. Yes, I do believe that sharing is caring but it helps to make the world go round. (oh my gosh Im really starting to sound like Barney). Message me anytime.
God Bless

I would say that for hitting, what I would do is probably say something like "Ow, hitting hurts mommy. I don't want to play with you when you behave like that. I'm going to go over here now. I'll play with you again when you can be gentle." Then when he comes to you reiterate that it hurt you, ask if he's sorry and ready to give you a hug and be gentle. This comes up for us with Cadence more with throwing things or just not being careful when running around. She's pretty sensetive and usually cries and says sorry right away and gives hugs. At 2.5, she's starting to understand that her actions can hurt others and she's generally pretty careful. You can use the same concept for gentle words as for gentle actions.

Hi everyone. I am a 23 year old single mom of a 2 1/2 year old boy. Lachlan has always been a very independent child and loves to do everything on his own. He is a very intelligent and bright child with a mind for mischief. He is my first child and I have no idea how to discipline him, when he does something wrong. Right now he has started to talk back all the time and he hits. I'm not sure how to stop this behavior. Does anyone have any advise?

Wow, I haven't been here in the while! Happy to meet everyone!