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He is definitely clueless. He has no kids and he is guilt tripping me into bringing my kids . My mother in law can’t take care of all 4 and she is the only person my wife trust to take care of the kids. I could go on my own but he would be really upset if I don’t bring the kids.
Are you sure about that? He desperately wants a bunch of gobblers at his wedding? Or is he just being gracious by inviting them, but secretly he’s saying to himself - “I REALLY don’t want a bunch of kids at my wedding, what a pain in the ass. . .”
You can bring the kids IF the grandparents (your parents) fly to you FIRST and assist with flying the kids back - and reverse the procedure on the way home. Their dime.
My family is broke. They live paycheck to paycheck
i understand people (especially family) can be difficult and have completely unrealistic expectations. i have been through more with mine than i care to talk about. but this is the time to just say NO.
have you ever gotten seriously angry with your brother? i think you may need to pull out the big guns and just have a rude, all-out, screamfest. be scary and tell him that THIS IS THE END OF THE DISCUSSION.
or, perhaps he would like to fill the bill for a travel nanny, plane fare and all other expenses you would need to come up with just to make everyone (except you), happy. that should do it. also, remember, YOU are the only one who can allow others to steamroll over you. don't allow it.
Been there with my brother just not on his special day .
I'd leave them at home without a second thought. It's not like they are teenagers that may want to attend because they can appreciate what the event represents. These are small children who will likely get bored in rather short order.
My little ones can only sit still for 15 mins 30 mins max. After that it’s on
Ask all your eager relatives to chip in for travel expenses, and volunteer to help wrangle the kids once you're there. That should reduce the pressure to bring them.
I don’t think you should go, for all the reasons stated above.
If you do, here’s what the bride or groom might post here afterwards: “My brother brought his four young kids to my wedding. They cried and fidgeted all through the ceremony and then ran around at the reception and stuck their fingers in the wedding cake.” I’m not saying this as a dig on your parenting skills. I’m saying this as reality.
Are you sure about that? He desperately wants a bunch of gobblers at his wedding? Or is he just being gracious by inviting them, but secretly he’s saying to himself - “I REALLY don’t want a bunch of kids at my wedding, what a pain in the ass. . .”
Not being gracious. We had a long argument on the phone . He was adamant . I wish that was the case .
I don't know, seems to me if your brother finds YOUR children more important than his bride on HIS wedding day, maybe they should reconsider their priorities.
If they are more than momentarily miffed at this - before moving on to what really matters (them) on this day - they should probably look in the mirror a bit.
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What is his motivation, do you think?
Does his bride have a really large family and they're ALL coming, including from great distances away, and he doesn't want to feel like his family can't be bothered?
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