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I don't know how many times more friends and family have to stand there and toast to you saying you'll be together till death do you part.
2nd and 3rd and more weddings should be more modest than the first.
DH and I married when I was 50 and he was 65- my second marriage, his third. Previous marriages ended in divorce. We had a beautiful, joyous church wedding with 3 priests on the altar, 4 soloists and a lot of incense. We used the reading that included "What God hath joined together, let no man put asunder". We meant it. We were together until he died two years ago and it was a match made in heaven.
Fortunately, our denomination believes in grace and forgiveness.
So many people in this subforum seem to have a neurosis about people spending money on upscale weddings.
I see nothing wrong with going all out for a second or third wedding, if the couple can afford it. Everyone wants a good life partner. These people just trying to find the right one. If they think they've found the right person and are happy, they should celebrate. Why not?
Anyone who disagrees can just not attend. Live and let live. Sheesh!
My sister eloped with her jerk of a first husband. She's engaged to a great guy now and she wants to celebrate that, which I don't blame her for even a little bit. Their wedding is not going to be extravagant, but it will be something.
WOW there are some judgemental people around here!
How is that judgmental? My wife has a cousin who has been married three times. Her second was bigger than her first. And her third was a big deal, too. You know, after the first time, the glamor kind of wears off.
How is that judgmental? My wife has a cousin who has been married three times. Her second was bigger than her first. And her third was a big deal, too. You know, after the first time, the glamor kind of wears off.
How is that judgmental? My wife has a cousin who has been married three times. Her second was bigger than her first. And her third was a big deal, too. You know, after the first time, the glamor kind of wears off.
In many cases one person is on the first wedding and the other person is on the second or third. Why should the person who has never been married lose out? I have one friend going for his second in a month or two. I think his first was pretty small. His wife is younger and has never been married, so of course he is not going to say no to the (closer) destination wedding.
It doesn't matter a hill of beans to me whether someone wants to have a full-scale $150,000 blowout for their third wedding. That's their business, not mine. They can rent the International Space Station for their reception for all I care. Good for them.
But if they get into a royal snit because their friends and relatives don't want to spend $6000 flying to some exotic destination and staying in a $350 a night hotel with a three-day minimum and try to lay the guilt trip on everyone who can't afford to attend? Then it matters.
I know of one bride who was pressuring family members to attend her "destination wedding". Later, I found out that she was getting a kickback from the resort for everyone who stayed there and had hoped to pay for part of her expenses with those kickbacks. Tacky. Really tacky.
I know of one bride who was pressuring family members to attend her "destination wedding". Later, I found out that she was getting a kickback from the resort for everyone who stayed there and had hoped to pay for part of her expenses with those kickbacks. Tacky. Really tacky.
When I was planning my wedding on theknot.com, several brides observed that if you had your wedding at an all-inclusive resort the reception wasn't as expensive because it was a meal your guests were already paying for. You just had to pay for whatever made it a little fancier. Yes- tacky.
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