How is the single life in San Jose? (San Francisco, Palo Alto: 2014, live)

[bobby_guz_man]

Originally Posted by nagleepark

I agree with roadwarrior101 mostly. Bobby_guz_man always has to rise to the defense but I don't agree.

Well of course I have to rise to the defense hehehhe! But I think everyone in the forum know this already LOL.

We always need more of awesome/pretty women in the South Bay, the more the merrier. So I'm gonna do my best to not drive OP away

[nagleepark]

Originally Posted by bobby_guz_man

And why would you need to feel sorry for the ladies? It's always the same group of people going to the same group of bars/lounges, so of course they're going to run into each other.

Despite "having their pick of guys", I have met some women who can't find anybody. There's nothing wrong with them, some are even attractive, and maybe some of it is their own fault. But I feel a little bad that they are in "Man Jose" but can't find a guy.

I wouldn't give 10 cents to be a single woman in San Jose.

[krudmonk]

Three points:
- complaining about being single is a common human trait
- nightlife is dominated by dudes in every city
- most savvy people use the internet to their advantage now

[NoMoreSnowForMe]

The culture here is so different from Texas. I love it here, but Texas is so much friendlier or at least it seems like it's easier to make friends in Texas.

You can always give it a try OP. You can always move back :-)

[josh u]

Originally Posted by nagleepark

Despite "having their pick of guys", I have met some women who can't find anybody. There's nothing wrong with them, some are even attractive, and maybe some of it is their own fault. But I feel a little bad that they are in "Man Jose" but can't find a guy.

I wouldn't give 10 cents to be a single woman in San Jose.

Any woman who can't find a guy in Silicon Valley is either physically repulsive, has serious a psycological condition, or thinks she can get a "10" guy when she's only a "5" but she thinks she's a 10. If I were a woman in this area, I could get guys eating out of my hand. I once knew a woman who dated 20+ different guys per month. And she was only a 7.5/10.

[nagleepark]

Originally Posted by josh u

Any woman who can't find a guy in Silicon Valley is either physically repulsive, has serious a psychological condition, or thinks she can get a "10" guy when she's only a "5" but she thinks she's a 10. If I were a woman in this area, I could get guys eating out of my hand. I once knew a woman who dated 20+ different guys per month. And she was only a 7.5/10.

About half my kid's elementary school teachers are female, single and looking. When they occasionally get dates, my kid hears all about it. And, believe me, it ain't all that often.

Sure, some women have baggage: divorces, kids, ex-boyfriend who they just can't get over, affinity for losers or ridiculous pickiness.

Maybe it is the difference between a quality date with a potential future and just some date.

[GioLM]

Rme...stereotypes about " man jose" and there only being tech nerds is a gross exaggeration. I'll tell you that my friends and I are nothing of the sort, and would be more than happy to welcome a single texan gal like yourself

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by bobby_guz_man

Oh lord...

It's a popular image, but it's not even close to being true. Most of the guys whom I have worked with in my field, who are single, are just as normal social-wise as everyone else.

I know, techies make a lot of money, A LOT. And people "resent" that, and make them out to be anti-social worker bees. I mean, they can't BOTH be sociable AND make a ton of money, can they? How are the average Joes going to compete with THAT? Good grief!

While I concede the stereotype is exaggerated, I believe it's true for the most part. That's not to say they're all (or even mostly) socially inept, but most techies are the INTJ personality type and those folks are just not the outgoing, dating, go-out-and-have fun types.. I say this as an INTJ type myself. The SV area is unbalanced in that regard. It's not that it can't be overcome, but it's something to be aware of.

The other issue you have in SV is that you have a lot of folks from other countries (such as India & Taiwan) who may not be interested in dating a native born American and/or whose approach to life may not really be compatible with someone born and raised in the U.S.

[bigdumbgod]

Originally Posted by mysticaltyger

The other issue you have in SV is that you have a lot of folks from other countries (such as India & Taiwan) who may not be interested in dating a native born American and/or whose approach to life may not really be compatible with someone born and raised in the U.S.

Have seen this ethnic reticence broken down with a cocktail or two at happy hour. Many of the people from overseas would like to let their guard down and open up, they just need a little encouragement. Sometimes just inviting some coworkers out for dinner after work is all it takes, and all they're hoping for in terms of being included and accepted.

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by bigdumbgod

Have seen this ethnic reticence broken down with a cocktail or two at happy hour. Many of the people from overseas would like to let their guard down and open up, they just need a little encouragement. Sometimes just inviting some coworkers out for dinner after work is all it takes, and all they're hoping for in terms of being included and accepted.

It could be true. But it also depends on the native born American, too. Cross cultural marriages are often more difficult because of some ingrained expectations on both sides. Often, they are expectations people don't even know they have. Some people can't or don't want to bridge that divide.