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She doesn't need you for that... she already feels good and special.
Now I really wish that it was the case, but unfortunately it was not. Most of the time she was just a sad girl, because of her past relationships. As she described they've been abusive and painful, hence why she was not seeking one. I know she was not faking it, simply by looking at her eyes, but the more time she spent with me, the more cheerful she would be. Maybe that's why I was trying everything that I could, just to please her
Why would you do all those things for her, knowing she was keeping you only as a "friend"? And knowing she was going out with other guys? And you even said you KNEW you were getting yourself into a bad situation. Yet you proceeded to go even deeper into that bad situation.
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Exactly what l was just gobsmacked with reading your post op.
lt was like what. She showed you the worst possible signs but yet you actually voluntarily turned it up to some crazy degree.
She knows her stuff that's for sure she's been working this reverse physiology tellem the worst watch them try even harder treatem mean shyt down pat for yrs.
Sounds like she's just a slightly different form of prostitute really.
Why would you do all those things for her, knowing she was keeping you only as a "friend"? And knowing she was going out with other guys? And you even said you KNEW you were getting yourself into a bad situation. Yet you proceeded to go even deeper into that bad situation.
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Exactly what l was just gobsmacked with reading your post op.
lt was like what. She showed you the worst possible signs but yet you actually voluntarily turned it up to some crazy degree.
She knows her stuff that's for sure she's been working this reverse physiology tellem the worst watch them try even harder treatem mean shyt down pat for yrs.
Sounds like she's just a slightly different form of prostitute really.
After yesterday's events and reading this post, I am feeling really relieved and a bit upset, because it's true.
Yesterday, when I saw that she blocked me on telegram (sort of whatsapp app), I could not restrain myself and wrote her on WhatsApp, just asked, why does she do all of this? And answer was ridiculous.
Before returning to my home country, we agreed that I'd take her on vacation here (obviously I had to pay for everything), but before the vacation was due, happened what happened, what I wrote in the first post. We stopped texting and my last message to her was "Should I wait you here or not"?, on which she obviously did not answer. I took that as a no and did not really bother myself texting her further. Now, turns out, that she blames me for that missed opportunity. Told me, that I sort of forced her to take vacation, and did not provide one. That she lost some money because of that and now she's again in a dire situation, that I simply let her down. And well, before I even had time to write her something, she blocked me there as well.
That's how my story ends apparently with the person for whom I wanted to be happy and was doing everything I could for that reason. As I said, it's relieving and upsetting at the same time
Well, OP, many of us have to learn the hard way, to watch out for red flags when interacting with people, and to take those red flags seriously. We learn to heed our inner voice that tells us "something is wrong with this picture". We have to learn to set our dreams, our neediness for the dream partner, aside, so that we can see the person with greater clarity and realism.
So, you just had a big learning experience. I hope your future search provides happier results.
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