Have you ever told a family member they'll be unwelcome at a viewing/funeral?

[CalvinT]

Originally Posted by HappyFarm34

I honestly couldn't do that to anyone. Just be civil and let people grieve unless the person gives a reason to be escorted out. Never kills anyone to be kind.

Maybe people should be kind to those who are alive.

[Bootsamillion]

Originally Posted by CalvinT

If so, how did you go about doing it?

I have a good friend who has two daughters. My friend's husband cheated on her their entire married lives and subsequently she left her husband. The daughters blamed the father for everything and would not even speak to him.

The Dad passed away during this (2-4 year span) and the girl's Mother and their brother told the girls they were not welcome at the funeral, because the Dad had told him to tell them that.

Wow. How sad is that? They were upset with him but he was their Dad. They loved him and were never allowed typical closure. They waited until he was buried and they visit the gravesite often, even to this day.

It would be my opinion, that if anyone at all really felt like they want to pay respects to a deceased friend or loved one, no matter what was going on between them, they should be able to do that.

I wonder if the OP is one of those that buries a friend with a six pack.

[CalvinT]

Originally Posted by Bootsamillion

I have a good friend who has two daughters. My friend's husband cheated on her their entire married lives and subsequently she left her husband. The daughters blamed the father for everything and would not even speak to him.

The Dad passed away during this (2-4 year span) and the girl's Mother and their brother told the girls they were not welcome at the funeral, because the Dad had told him to tell them that.

Wow. How sad is that? They were upset with him but he was their Dad. They loved him and were never allowed typical closure. They waited until he was buried and they visit the gravesite often, even to this day.

It would be my opinion, that if anyone at all really felt like they want to pay respects to a deceased friend or loved one, no matter what was going on between them, they should be able to do that.

I wonder if the OP is one of those that buries a friend with a six pack.

I refer to it as 'blowing out the cobwebs.'