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They are breed em tough in the these parts. It is a shame men are in general emotional pygmies from these parts and can't let go of what for all intents and purposes would be more suited for cave habiting times in the past.
A number of European women over the years have commented on this as well as how straight laced and with out passion they are. Lots of relationships saw break down.
Rather hopeless cases really..lol
how can you expect passion ( of a european kind ) from a place as WASP,sh as new zealand ?
Hard to make a generalisation based on the thread question. What I will say is, a common trait of kiwi males is to be quite modest and not to brag, compared to some other parts of the world. Someone asks :
"What have you been up to" even if you have achieved alot, its common to play your cards close to your chest. Recaping isn't big.
Also the opposite of most women, not very emotional and not common to talk about personal issues. A few things that come to mind.
My boyfriend is a kiwi....... trust me.... dont expect visible emotion, feeling, anyting of that sort. thats just the way they are. dont take it personal. dont mean they dont feel it, you just wont see it
Tell him you want to talk about your feelings that will get a reaction.
I have recently returned to NZ after living overseas for the last 12 years in the UK, Asia, Australia and the USA. I have to say that it's quite a shock to be back home and dating kiwi men again. I was very spoilt in the USA, the men I met were polite, chivalrous, communicated honestly and openly and made me feel like a princess. Kiwi men are almost at the opposite end of the scale, although I am sure that deep down they have the ability to share similar emotions, they are not forthcoming in sharing these emotions and I am often left feeling disheartened and confused with where I stand. When I push for communication, I often find that what you see is not necessarily what they are feeling. Kiwi men are genuine and have a heart of gold, however it's not culturally acceptable for them to be 'soft' or show their emotions and this is the way they are raised. I hope this helps... Good luck!
My boyfriend is a kiwi....... trust me.... dont expect visible emotion, feeling, anyting of that sort. thats just the way they are. dont take it personal. dont mean they dont feel it, you just wont see it
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Originally Posted by saffagirl
I realise that its a bit of a BS generlization, but all in all most southern hemisphere men (saffas, aussies and kiwis) are all rather void of "sissy boy" emotion.
You mean, for example, that it's disgraceful/shameful to cry(bursting into tears) or act girlish when trying to express his emotions? (sort of like, "Big boys don't cry!")
Kiwi men have a tendency to be closed with their emotions and into their mates.
And before the "oh you're generalising' starts, note the tendency part of my statement.
So by close with their emotions, you mean, he won't tell you how beautiful you are and give you an ego boost? So what if he's into his mates? What kind of man is going to give up his friends for a woman that he just met over his friends that he has possibly known for ten years?
This is entitlement at the highest order. If you want him to do that, then you do the same. And while you are at it, boot those ex-boyfriends that women love keeping in touch with these days. If not then stop acting like your entitled to be his one and only.
I have recently returned to NZ after living overseas for the last 12 years in the UK, Asia, Australia and the USA. I have to say that it's quite a shock to be back home and dating kiwi men again. I was very spoilt in the USA, the men I met were polite, chivalrous, communicated honestly and openly and made me feel like a princess. Kiwi men are almost at the opposite end of the scale, although I am sure that deep down they have the ability to share similar emotions, they are not forthcoming in sharing these emotions and I am often left feeling disheartened and confused with where I stand. When I push for communication, I often find that what you see is not necessarily what they are feeling. Kiwi men are genuine and have a heart of gold, however it's not culturally acceptable for them to be 'soft' or show their emotions and this is the way they are raised. I hope this helps... Good luck!
This message alone makes me glad that I don't have a girlfriend.
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