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I think I didn't describe it correctly. She was working/studying for maybe 20 minutes, then she put on her headphones and watched some movie/s the whole time..
Anyway, I guess this does not change anything and the best move here is to just move on
Well, you have nothing to lose.Most of the other stuff is kind of awkward , but again nothing to lose. But you are trying to hit on a pitchers count I figure, 0 and 2
I think I didn't describe it correctly. She was working/studying for maybe 20 minutes, then she put on her headphones and watched some movie/s the whole time..
You didn't meet anyone. Doesn't matter what she was doing with her laptop. She was still transmitting obvious signals that she'd prefer not to engage with you or anyone else. For all you know this was cherished and rare private time you were invading. Snooping on her private business? Cringeworthy! Where are your boundaries OP?
LOL....yup. Even if she liked him too, after such a lame and fruitless encounter, she definitely would have.
How old are you, and also, how old do you think she was?
Assuming you are both adults (21 & up) and neither of you is a complete tool or very shy, when you looked at her, did you smile at all?
Nope, then you probably came off a bit creepy even! Move on!
If you smiled at her in a sincere way, did she smile back at you?
No? Move on as there is a good chance she was not even "that" into you to begin with!
Reminds me of an episode of Modern Love, lol. But yeah, these kinds of things usually only happen in the movies/TV. In reality if you write her without having spoken to her first you would be cast as a creep, and probably for good reason. I would advise against it. Given that she had her headphones on and engaged in concentrative activity, she was probably not in the best position to have a conversation anyway.
If you have to peek at something without them knowing, then it's over. If you want to ruin this, yeah reach out to her more.
You want to make a real connection, if you see her in-person on the train, be a man and tell her you like her physicality and would you like to go on a date. It isn't sexy to try to do it that way without more context, but you have too much social anxiety since you are considering alternate, more discreet ways to contact her.
It's normal to fantasize, but to reach out in desperation on your own terms and not on both the other person's and your terms reasonably enough at the same time, then it's not appropriate.
Consider therapy first before you get back into the scene.
If I was in that girl's shoes and the OP contacted me after finding my name or contact information that way, I'd be paranoid for years to come!
It really depends on how he looks. Attractive men are rarely "creepy". The rules are just not the same. Just the way it is. However if he is attractive just by looking at him , he can find 10 more girls just like her. If he is the more typical man that requires getting to know him , she will think she already knows him enough in a bad way. So either way, pointless.
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