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.....What always makes me sad is when a second or third spouse inherits from the other spouse and then leaves everything to children of their own former marriage. I think that is just unconscionable and downright cruel.
I made a promise to Mr. Dokie (and myself) when we married I would not screw his children out of an inheritance like I did by MY step mother. I fully intend to keep that promise.
In our wills we leave everything to each other, but both wills list his children by name.
They will get 75% of his IRAs if he dies before me, and everything that’s left when I die.
I just had to follow up on this.
I received a card in the mail yesterday from the daughter of my father's 2nd wife. I'd sent her a card with a note since the family request no flowers be sent.
She enclosed a copy of the program for the service that was held. It was really nicely done, a few good pictures (only one with my Dad, the day they got married) but only he was mentioned. I guess that's appropriate since we were not her bio relatives.
Interestingly enough, my middle sister -who had a loose relationship with her- read the first part of the liturgy and my youngest/only brother, who I had no idea had a relationship with her, or even if he did, was a pall bearer.
I have not received any notification from the probate attorney, which was the reason I was asked to provide my address.
Strange all the things this brings up for me. Talk about baggage. smh and LOL.
Strange all the things this brings up for me. Talk about baggage. smh and LOL.
Yeah, tell me about it.
When my mother died, her son-in-laws and stepchildren were included in her program/obit. I thought it was the right decision.
When my father-in-law died, his daughter-in-law (me) and his son-in-laws weren't included. It's a personal choice, but it felt odd. My husband and his children were named without a mother. It was like the children sprung out of water like Botticelli's painting of the birth of Venus - no mother, just the clamshell.
Last edited by YorktownGal; 04-02-2024 at 09:52 AM..
When my mother died, her son-in-laws and stepchildren were included in her program/obit. I thought it was the right decision.
When my father-in-law died, his daughter-in-law (me) and his son-in-laws weren't included. It's a personal choice, but it felt odd. My husband and his children were named without a mother. It was like the children sprung out of water like Botticelli's painting of the birth of Venus - no mother, just the clamshell.
When my FIL passed away, I wasn't included in the obit even though I was close to him because it cost more. When Hubby passed away- all of his kids' partners were included because I didn't write the obit- just paid for it.
IMHO some people sure look for reasons to get their feathers ruffled.
As for my name being mentioned in an obituary, I couldn't care less if it is someone else's. Put it into perspective. In the grand scheme of things, seems more important that the obit wasn't MINE.
Last edited by Parnassia; 04-02-2024 at 04:11 PM..
Got my notification paperwork that probate has begun and Mrs. M's will has been filed. There is an attachment that lists 33 people and/or organizations 'mentioned in the decedent's will or codicil' (for what purpose, I don't know, and it's been many years since my basic "Probate" class during paralegal training). I'm not sure it means anything that my siblings and I are listed as step-children below my fathers' name as the first six people on the list. Probably nothing.
I'm not looking for reasons to get my feathers ruffled - I guess on some level I never expected to hear anything further from that side of the 'family' after my father died and find it odd that so many years later, I just still feel hurt. Like I said - baggage.
So, yesterday I got test messages from a 561 area code (FL) from someone claiming to be from a business called "ProbateCash." Their note is about getting an advance on your inheritance, supposedly. I do not believe I will be receiving an inheritance, but more to the point, how did this guy/scam (?) get my number?
When I got that first text I replied "who is this????" He responded.....and then I asked him how much I'm getting. LOL
I can't believe this. smh
Waiting to hear from a sister to see if she got the same text.
I signed my will last week. I wasn't comfortable signing a Power of Attorney so I didn't. But now if anything happens to me, everything goes to the step-kids.
Cat
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