7 year old girl out of control

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Originally Posted by Ceece

IMO there is nothing you can do or say that will change the way your friend is parenting her daughter. If the kid is really doing what you say at age 7 it's all your friends fault and she's not going to change.

I agree with you. I brought up the subject of discipline with her and she said "so it MY fault!"

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Originally Posted by Pitt Chick

There is more she can do

What would you suggest?

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Originally Posted by City Guy997S

Easy= no more "serving," tablet gets thrown away, don't buy unhealthy foods, give the dog away

No school - I'd reach out to the school and see if they have answers. If not a visit from the truancy officer will likely shape "tantrum tubby" back into shape.

Fix it at 7 or be a grandmother by the time the kid turns 16 and then its Honey Boo Boo TV time!

If the tablet was taken away or if the girl didn't get the food she wanted she would take a fit.

The school is not being useful.

My friend called the police once. They talked to her but it didn't change anything.

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Originally Posted by staystill

I'm just curious here. Where is the father in all this?
How does a 7 year old have the password to their mother's Amazon account?
Why doesn't the mother log out and call Amazon to let them know she needs to set up the account where it must be logged in with the password every time the account is clicked on and tell them her underage daughter is purchasing products she has no permission to do.
Why doesn't she just stop paying for the tablet to work or shut it down so her daughter cannot watch movies all day.
Why isn't the mother working?
Why doesn't your friend put on a pair of ear plugs and put her screaming daughter in her room until the temper tantrums are over. Take all her toys, gadgets, TV if she has one out of the her room.
I think there is a situation you are not being told about since the child is home all day. That makes no sense to me unless your friend signed up to have her child home schooled and didn't tell you.

Have you asked these questions to your friend? Have you given any suggestions to help her?

I hate to suggested it but maybe call the school she should be enrolled in and let them know the problems this child is displaying. The problems are largely from lack of discipline. I hope you get the dog into a safe home environment.

She better stop this out of control behavior because she becomes a abused parent by a violent offspring when she reaches teen age stage statistic. She can and will be severely hurt by her own daughter if she doesn't stop this now.

The "father" is worse than the the child. Thankfully he doesn't have custody.

The Amazon app works without having to enter a password. I'll ask her why she doesn't sign out of it.

If the the tablet stopped working the girl would take a fit.

My friend is on leave from her job.

The girl would refuse to go to her room. At 140 pounds, my friend is unable to carry her. The girl would hit my friend and damage the house and contents.

I know her well and know everything that's doing on.

The school is aware of the situation but is not being useful.

I suggested that discipline may be a factor but she disagrees. She doesn't believe in discipline and is sure that the cause is a yet to be determined condition.

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Originally Posted by E-Twist

How long has this been going on? The dog should be rehomed or taken to the humane society asap. The parent can't be too bright if she can't figure out how to stop the kid from ordering off of Amazon. The parent doesn't have to provide junk food. Yes the child needs to see a doctor. There is so much weirdness in this post I have to question whether it's real.

This started when the girl was 2 years old

If my friend doesn't provide junk food the girl won't eat and will take a fit.

The situation is quite real. My friend is quite stressed out over it.

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Originally Posted by NeutralZone

She also needs a father in the home to set boundaries and enforce discipline, but that’s not a popular thing to say.

The man that my friend originally partnered up with is more trouble than the girl is.

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Originally Posted by micro222

This started when the girl was 2 years old

If my friend doesn't provide junk food the girl won't eat and will take a fit.

The situation is quite real. My friend is quite stressed out over it.

It sounds like there are no solutions which do not require mom growing a back bone. Who came up with the idea of calling PD to deal with a child's tantrum?

It is not the school's place to replace a parent.

140 pounds at 7 years old? That child needs help and not via mother's friend on CD.

The dog is a victim and needs to get rehomed asap. Who will do that?

The child needs to see a doctor and then treatment.

Yes, it is the mother's fault to let it get that far.

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Originally Posted by elnina

I just wonder if the mother actually asked for help and is interested to get any advice?
Otherwise, it doesn't matter what we say - she won't do it.
A "helpful" friend could became an enemy very quickly.

She didn't ask. She's interested as long as it doesn't require her to do anything stressful. She's not particularly interested in the discipline angle. She sure there's a psychological cause to it all.

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Maybe you should call CPS? It sounds like things will only get worse without intervention.

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Originally Posted by gentlearts

Maybe you should call CPS? It sounds like things will only get worse without intervention.

The school called them a few weeks ago. I don't know what they can be expected to do. We'll find out soon.