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Seriously? I've been at my job for 13 years, am well-liked and respected, always get every single raise/promotion/accolade I'm up for..... and I spend my lunch breaks reading by myself and always have.
Some people on the subway and other situations put on headphones not just to listen to music, but also to deter conversations with others. Of course, that ruse might not work if you are seen reading something at the same time - but still, it may have the desired effect.
What do you mean "that ruse may not work"? Those are TWO huge cues that you don't want to talk to anyone- one doesn't negate the other.
Wow, that's a huge leap. You don't know what the OP is like at work or what he does.
Not a huge leap at all.
One can tell a lot from passive aggressive posts and the people behind them.
I don't prefer to converse with others on my lunch break either, but if someone wants to sit with me or talk to me, fine, I'm not going to go crying to a forum, when all one has to do is go eat outside of the lunch room to be by yourself.
I love to be alone at lunch. I would rather surf the internet, read and relax.
I do know that being social at lunch is important (unfortunately) and will eat in the break room four days of the week.
However, after eating I'll go to the conference room, close the door and just relax for the remaining time of my lunch.
The other day of the week I'll just take the entire time for myself.
Want a quiet place? Grab a conference room and close the door. Its great..
Nothing wrong with wanting a mental break and getting away. If that means getting in your car and driving to a nearby park or something to do so, go ahead and do that.
But do not do that all the time. Those lunch time conversations and relationships you build are vital for your career. They can become future referrals.
Seriously? I've been at my job for 13 years, am well-liked and respected, always get every single raise/promotion/accolade I'm up for..... and I spend my lunch breaks reading by myself and always have.
Lot's of people do, not a thing wrong with that, either. Anyone who tells you different does not know what they are talking about.
Is there something wrong with this? When I'm on my lunch break I just want to be left alone. Unless I go to my car or leave the premise there isn't any place I can go other than the lunch room. I try to do my reading but people still try to talk to me. I can't eat at my desk.
I was the same way when I was in a similar situation. I would say answer whatever they are saying with a brief reply and then say I don't want to be rude but I really want to read this and go back to reading.
I don't recall who did the study but a few years ago researchers tracked people who ordered lunch meals at fast food counters.
It turned out that instead of taking their meal over to a booth and eating it there, most folks were eating in their cars. If you looked in the parking lot each car had one person in it, eating and listening to the radio, reading, etc.
The researchers speculated that controlling one's environment during a midday break is pretty important -- important enough to take the food out to the car and risk crumbs and/or litter.
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