Ok, I'm spitting mad!
Many on this board have accused me of being too protective, domineering, etc. I disagree.
with a 13 year old daughter, I feel its my RESPONSIBILITY to know where she's at and who she's with. I don't care what others think, those are MY RULES
I've been attacked on this board via other posts, my "rules" are too protective, yadda, yadda
Well, today my dd wanted to go to the mall with a friend. I had not met the friend, nor her mother. They came by, I didn't met them. I violated my own rules. which are:
I personally meet other parents first, introduce myself, exchange information, I even have cards printed up
We agree on the ground rules--where they go, when they return, if something come up, we communicate, etc.
Well, today, I violated my own rules. DD was in a hurry, they were here, I wasn't dressed, so, she ran out. With a cell phone, but not much money. Oh, they were just going to hang out, not buy anything.
We got a call almost 9:30 pm from frantic DD, alone at the mall, the girls had run off and left her. The mall was closing, she approached a security guard. Dad is in process of fetching her, she is with security guard now, otherwise she'd be all alone in a deserted mall. BTW, I curredntly can't drive, due to a back injury. I assumed if they took her, they would return her.
So, I will proceed to tear this woman's head off in shreads when I encounter her.
What's the matter with you? You pick up a child you take responsibility for her, you don't run off and leave her. I don't care what you thought, I don't care if your girls told you she left, they couldn't find her, etc, YOU were RESPONSIBLE FOR MY CHILD If somehow you couldn't find her, you should have located us somehow--see, that's why I insist on exchanging information with other parents!
Not all people are as responsible as I am, when I have someone else's child, I consider it a sacred trust, I don't just assume they got home somehow without following through.
Even if this woman didn't have our cell, her dd had our name, and obviously they knew where we lived, they came here and picked her up, they should have come by here and said they couldn't locate her, anything but leave her stranded in the mall!
Fortunately dd knows what to do---approach a "safe person" such as a security guard, those lessons have been drummed into them since they were 3. My kids have more sense than many adults, but hey, I know how little sense some people have, that's why I am protective and cautious!
So now, flame me for this!
I will find this woman and give her my opinion on her treatment of my child---she will not like what she will hear!
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