What does this comment mean to you? (husband, person, present)
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While at my moms (and her husband was there) I was telling her I lost 16 lbs since last time I was there and then asked how long its been since my last visit. I do the math and found I lost 4 lbs a week and share that information with her.
Fast forward and now getting ready to end my visit. Her husband says "Come back after you lose another 16 lbs in 4 weeks.". I don't respond. Then he says "You can come back sooner than 4 weeks.".
They are paying my cellphone bill so I don't ask clarifying questions since when doing so people can get offended (by having to explain they mean).
I've been analyzing his comments. When you hear his comments, what do you think?
It was either a harmless joke, or it was a passive aggressive poke at you. Does he have a habit of being that way to you. Only you know the answer to that part.
I don't know what your relationship is with him (friendly, reserved, contentious, etc.) but without any more context I'd say it was said facetiously and was kind of insensitive but probably meant in a kidding manner - unless he is known to be snarky or snide. Was your mother present at the time - if so, what did she think?
Congrats on your weight loss, OP! We can't tell what his comment means, except that it seems like he's not the supportive type. Did either of them congratulate you? Have you reached your goal, or do you have more to lose? If the latter, his comment may have been a lame attempt at a joke. It sounds like he was impressed, though, with your progress, in spite of expressing himself oddly and clumsily.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 08-26-2015 at 11:16 AM..
It was either a harmless joke, or it was a passive aggressive poke at you. Does he have a habit of being that way to you. Only you know the answer to that part.
By joke do you mean it was a rub that people do to each other when they know and like each other and think they can handle it?
So far I think he is sometimes considerate and sometimes is less than nice (understatement). On the other hand, he lacks interpersonal relationship skills more so than I do (he is over 65 years old).
My mom said I don't like him before I even met him. My first meet with him I was 330lbs and he said I looked good and thin. Now I understand her message back then to mean nobody likes him so I won't either.
Congrats on your weight loss, OP! We can't tell what his comment means, except that it seems like he's not the supportive type. Did either of them congratulate you? Have you reached your goal, or do you have more to lose? If so, his comment may have been a lame attempt at a joke. It sounds like he was impressed, though, with your progress, in spite of expressing himself oddly and clumsily.
Thank you, Ruth.
No, I didn't get any support. They are thin, both ectomorphs. I'm guessing they were thinking about themselves when I said how much I lost.
Yup, tried to be funny, then realized it wasn't and stepped back. No biggie,.
This is probably it. Said something he regretted, tried to back-pedal and made it worse. I should be able to visit my mom when I and she wants to visit. Not when he says. But I think this is me over-analyzing.
I appreciate the input from everyone!!
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