Surnames and In-laws
Posted 08-05-2014 at 09:37 AM by Rubi3
My mom was proud of her maiden name, more so than her married name, the latter of which was my surname. I didn't like the name, but didn't realize it was probably because of mother. Neither names are unusual, but not common either. Just regular unassuming names more likely not to be given names.
My younger brother's middle name was our mother's maiden name, but he was dubbed a junior. Since our father's middle name was Washington, perhaps they didn't wish to burden him with it, but he definitely was not a junior. I don't think he realized it until he married. Wives are good at debunking in-law beliefs. It didn't take me long to know my MIL was not going to be a positive force in my life, so I know how it is.
Our dad was once stopped for speeding, but the trooper didn't issue a ticket because the trooper was also named after a president. It was the first time my father's name was responsible for a benefit, he said.
As it happens, I've never liked any surname attached to my life. When I married the first time, I ended up not liking my new name, then in later years the same thinking evolved about the second married name. My this time, though it's a moot point. I kept the last one and it isn't going to change at this late date.
Those who have a good relationship with in-laws are fortunate. I had a blue jean jacket that was too big, so my husband wore it. I made a remark about it belonging to me, which was only a joke, but next thing I know his mother laundered and ironed it and handed it to me as she said, "here's the jacket that belongs to you." She'd been offended by something I said to her darling only son, my husband. Bless her heart.
One day during a hot July, Oklahoma day, we were visiting in his parent's home. She took me aside to tell me to never wear shorts to their home again. I was 17 and shocked by her words and suggested she stop wearing low v-cut necks on her dresses which exposed her clear to her waist. She came unglued getting me told off. She was truly a mother-in-law from hell and I'm sure I was the same type DIL.
This went from surnames to in-laws........... my apologies! LOL
My younger brother's middle name was our mother's maiden name, but he was dubbed a junior. Since our father's middle name was Washington, perhaps they didn't wish to burden him with it, but he definitely was not a junior. I don't think he realized it until he married. Wives are good at debunking in-law beliefs. It didn't take me long to know my MIL was not going to be a positive force in my life, so I know how it is.
Our dad was once stopped for speeding, but the trooper didn't issue a ticket because the trooper was also named after a president. It was the first time my father's name was responsible for a benefit, he said.
As it happens, I've never liked any surname attached to my life. When I married the first time, I ended up not liking my new name, then in later years the same thinking evolved about the second married name. My this time, though it's a moot point. I kept the last one and it isn't going to change at this late date.
Those who have a good relationship with in-laws are fortunate. I had a blue jean jacket that was too big, so my husband wore it. I made a remark about it belonging to me, which was only a joke, but next thing I know his mother laundered and ironed it and handed it to me as she said, "here's the jacket that belongs to you." She'd been offended by something I said to her darling only son, my husband. Bless her heart.
One day during a hot July, Oklahoma day, we were visiting in his parent's home. She took me aside to tell me to never wear shorts to their home again. I was 17 and shocked by her words and suggested she stop wearing low v-cut necks on her dresses which exposed her clear to her waist. She came unglued getting me told off. She was truly a mother-in-law from hell and I'm sure I was the same type DIL.
This went from surnames to in-laws........... my apologies! LOL
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