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I have been alone for two full months now. I managed to pull through the holidays without a heavy crash. I've had some relatively insightful moments. I continue to feel good about myself. Not working nearly as much as I'd like right now, but I planned for that. I've avoided all and any low class pot shots at my ex. even sent her a Christmas card wishing her good luck in the future. I feel like I am making good choices and that is enough to sustain me for now.
I used to be in sales, and I was good at it. I was able to ask questions, listen to the response and watch the body language. And ask another question, gather a little more information. After three questions, I would tell you what I was going to do, and what you were going to do. (I would have been a good detective.) But I never slept well those years. I was manipulating people and I didn't like that aspect of it. It was my job to prey on vulnerabilities. Even when I told them what I was going to do, it was still an easy sell. Now in all honesty, the fact that they were willing to make an appointment with me, tells me that they were at least considering what I had to offer, so it's not like I was going in blind.
I have had a lot of experiences similar to this when it comes to dating. Aside from my marriages and one other relationship, my average dating life span is about three weeks. I chose a very up front approach, allowing me an out that they knew I was a player, but I"ll tell you, I only attracted a particular type. Maybe because most women who held them selves in a higher regard likely wouldn't give me the time of day, and that's ok. I likely wasn't giving off an image of maturity and security. I did attract women who just wanted to have a good time. And there are plenty out there. Plenty of women who will sleep with a guy with in the first couple dates. Now most of the time I wouldn't turn it down, unless I thought she was s-faced. And that's cool, but to those women, don't expect more unless you have a lot more to offer. Don't be surprised if the man chooses to ditch after a short period of time.
Most guys may not stay if you don't put out with in a few weeks, but that should be their loss. If they do stay, they will respect you for who you are as a person, and not just as a gender.
I typically used a gimmick to hook up with girls way back in the day. Either dancing, taking off my clothes, or doing something over the top, or maybe all three at the same time. Now that I am older, I can't see myself using the same approach. Now I actually will have to approach a woman on sheer wit alone. Hoping that I can buy myself one minute. If I can get one minute, maybe I can get five. If I can get five, maybe I can get a number, or a good rest of the evening. I'm not keen about the potential lack of spontaneity dating used to seem to hold. And I expect rejection, which I am okay with. I do hope that it doesn't cause me to have to have to come up with some canned lines, or even worse a sales pitch.
Women seem more guarded now a days. I can't blame them. There are a lot of freaks! I might be one of them!! But I wonder to what effect it prohibits out right, let your hair down, kind of fun! I don't want to go into future relationships having to walk on egg shells. Dating used to be a lot fun!
I guess time will tell. And don't worry, I'm hanging tight in my holding pattern a while longer HAHAHA
I used to be in sales, and I was good at it. I was able to ask questions, listen to the response and watch the body language. And ask another question, gather a little more information. After three questions, I would tell you what I was going to do, and what you were going to do. (I would have been a good detective.) But I never slept well those years. I was manipulating people and I didn't like that aspect of it. It was my job to prey on vulnerabilities. Even when I told them what I was going to do, it was still an easy sell. Now in all honesty, the fact that they were willing to make an appointment with me, tells me that they were at least considering what I had to offer, so it's not like I was going in blind.
I have had a lot of experiences similar to this when it comes to dating. Aside from my marriages and one other relationship, my average dating life span is about three weeks. I chose a very up front approach, allowing me an out that they knew I was a player, but I"ll tell you, I only attracted a particular type. Maybe because most women who held them selves in a higher regard likely wouldn't give me the time of day, and that's ok. I likely wasn't giving off an image of maturity and security. I did attract women who just wanted to have a good time. And there are plenty out there. Plenty of women who will sleep with a guy with in the first couple dates. Now most of the time I wouldn't turn it down, unless I thought she was s-faced. And that's cool, but to those women, don't expect more unless you have a lot more to offer. Don't be surprised if the man chooses to ditch after a short period of time.
Most guys may not stay if you don't put out with in a few weeks, but that should be their loss. If they do stay, they will respect you for who you are as a person, and not just as a gender.
I typically used a gimmick to hook up with girls way back in the day. Either dancing, taking off my clothes, or doing something over the top, or maybe all three at the same time. Now that I am older, I can't see myself using the same approach. Now I actually will have to approach a woman on sheer wit alone. Hoping that I can buy myself one minute. If I can get one minute, maybe I can get five. If I can get five, maybe I can get a number, or a good rest of the evening. I'm not keen about the potential lack of spontaneity dating used to seem to hold. And I expect rejection, which I am okay with. I do hope that it doesn't cause me to have to have to come up with some canned lines, or even worse a sales pitch.
Women seem more guarded now a days. I can't blame them. There are a lot of freaks! I might be one of them!! But I wonder to what effect it prohibits out right, let your hair down, kind of fun! I don't want to go into future relationships having to walk on egg shells. Dating used to be a lot fun!
I guess time will tell. And don't worry, I'm hanging tight in my holding pattern a while longer HAHAHA
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