What's A Woman To Do?
Posted 06-17-2014 at 10:37 PM by beautifuldreamer
My husband and I are going through a terrible situation right now. I'm at a loss as to what to do as I am hurting so much from this. I know he is hurting too but what else can we do? I know he is doing this to make his parents happy, but I don't understand why this has to end the way it is.
We are getting divorced and he is returning to his country. I can not go with him because his family doesn't approve and I recently found out that he never told his parents that we even got married. It's a complicated situation; he thought he would be able to explain to them that he got married and that everything might be okay, but he never had a chance to tell them. It all has to do with social status and caste system-- I don't understand it. I just know that he is just leaving me because he loves and respects his parents more than anything. He said that he wished he didn't have to do this but he has no other choice and he feels helpless and like he is in a tug of war too. One side he has me, the other side he has his family. I have been seeking advice and doing all sorts of research as to what I can possibly do to keep our marriage sound, but I have found nothing. Every one keeps telling me to let go, but I believe that marriage is for life and should be fought for to preserve. It is a sacred union between two people by God. I was not a bad wife, my husband told me that in his culture they believe in life after life and he could search for more than 50 years and never find another like I was and that he hoped that in the next life we would find each other and be each others' first and last. He only leaves because he wants to keep peace with his parents. But what can I do? I love his so much and am tired of hurting and crying every day. This is too much for a person to have to go through!
Any advice out there at all!? From any one?
All advice I was given has been divorce and go on. This saddens me because marriage is no longer held sacred, or special. What has the world come to?
We are getting divorced and he is returning to his country. I can not go with him because his family doesn't approve and I recently found out that he never told his parents that we even got married. It's a complicated situation; he thought he would be able to explain to them that he got married and that everything might be okay, but he never had a chance to tell them. It all has to do with social status and caste system-- I don't understand it. I just know that he is just leaving me because he loves and respects his parents more than anything. He said that he wished he didn't have to do this but he has no other choice and he feels helpless and like he is in a tug of war too. One side he has me, the other side he has his family. I have been seeking advice and doing all sorts of research as to what I can possibly do to keep our marriage sound, but I have found nothing. Every one keeps telling me to let go, but I believe that marriage is for life and should be fought for to preserve. It is a sacred union between two people by God. I was not a bad wife, my husband told me that in his culture they believe in life after life and he could search for more than 50 years and never find another like I was and that he hoped that in the next life we would find each other and be each others' first and last. He only leaves because he wants to keep peace with his parents. But what can I do? I love his so much and am tired of hurting and crying every day. This is too much for a person to have to go through!
Any advice out there at all!? From any one?
All advice I was given has been divorce and go on. This saddens me because marriage is no longer held sacred, or special. What has the world come to?
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No advice from anyone? Not even a comment?Posted 08-08-2014 at 08:45 AM by beautifuldreamer
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when a real man marries, hes supposed to be separate from his parents completely ! Maybe his culture is different. I hate to say it but you should move on and marry a good Christian man!Posted 08-22-2014 at 08:57 AM by blazek12
