I just don't understand!
Posted 07-09-2008 at 08:45 PM by lanamarie11
It's taken me forever to even consider getting over my first love and I can't take it! I hate how every time I think of him I feel sick with sadness and I don't even phase him anymore. Any advice?
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Its better than to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all? sometimes songs are better than words.
YouTube - Garth Brooks - The DancePosted 07-10-2008 at 08:05 AM by arguy1973
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In time the hurt will heal.Posted 07-10-2008 at 08:43 AM by East Coast Wanderer
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Move on. You're worth it. It's a big world out there.Posted 07-11-2008 at 07:19 PM by emeraldsky
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I had that problem years ago and went to a therapist who at the first meeting pointed out that I was crying for the loss of my love AND the dream of having my father come back home. That these two feelings had intertwined themselves around each other and that I needed to realize that so I could deal with them separately. The moment he said that I felt a "click" in my brain and realized that he was right. And from that moment I was over my old love. Is it possible there is some other loss that you are grieving over and that it's getting intertwined with your lost love? If so, if you can separate the loss's into two separate issues it may help. I kept using the loss of my love and loss of my dad as proof that people I love would always leave me. Once I separated my childhood loss from my grown-up loss I no longer missed the ex-boyfriend. He became a separate issue and I realized immediately that I didn't even like him and that he hadn't been at all good for me. I also realized my ex-boyfriend had been the spitting image of my dad. I was trying to do that childhood thing over again with a substitute. This may not apply to you at all but it worked so miraculously for me I feel compelled to share it, just in case. Sending you tons of good thought and wishes.
LaysayfairPosted 07-11-2008 at 10:49 PM by laysayfair
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No, I don't think it hurts so much because of any connection to someone else. It was just a terrible break up and I was so in love with him. Maybe I feel this way because I'm young or because I'm not even trying to move on. I know I should give other guys a chance, but I think it would be unfair to get into a relationship with someone knowing I'm not over my ex.Posted 07-13-2008 at 11:21 AM by lanamarie11
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Then just start with good guy friends. Go out and have fun like friends do. With your girlfriends too. Don't sit at home or go through life any less than you should. Be happy! Have fun. You've got to be happy all on your own two feet. No guy can truly do that for you. Don't allow your happiness or self-image to be dependent on any guy. I hope I don't sound too lectury. It's just being a woman, I have been there. College time especially. Let go. He's only human. Really. Sometimes we make those lost loves out to be much more than they really are. There are many great guys out there, trust me. You have more love in your heart for many more people than you realize. Hugs.Posted 07-14-2008 at 07:43 PM by emeraldsky
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I think that was amazing advice Emeraldsky. You seem like a wonderful woman. I do sometimes feel like I depended on him to make me happy or maybe he just made me happy for so long it hurt to not have him around. I should just enjoy being young and going to college.
Thank you!Posted 07-14-2008 at 09:48 PM by lanamarie11
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Time may be the best medicine. I see my friends who have the same experience as you.at first,they are so bad,just like sky is never blue,sunny is disappear forever.
when somebody fall in love,they will say more pledge of eternal love ,when the love is not exist,anything is fake.
when you are love somebody,believe him or her,when love dissappear,also believe what past time is happy.
life is just a page and a page.reading a page over,just let your dream on the next page.Posted 07-24-2008 at 02:54 AM by iminer
