DEATH OF A FRIEND : what I learned
Posted 07-25-2009 at 06:40 PM by maybenow
A friend of mine died today. I saw his death a few years back,not because of his health,but because he stopped living. He worked long and hard,got drunk after work. Day in,day out the same thing. This post is not so much about his death but more about my way of thinking. When does one really die? If we are alive but have no life,no dreams,hobbies,no ambititions,no future,ect. didn't we die already? The body might be strong,but is that enough if we stop dreaming? What good is living without risk,fun,love. Maybe my friends death might be my wake up call. When I am on my death bed I want to smile,knowing I have lived life. I want it to be said I lived, traveled,took risks,tried. Sometimes we learn from those who pass on. I hope I did.
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MaybeNow;
You are young and open to learning, so you will learn. You care for others, and you will be hurt by their choices, but you will be rewarded for your pain. I am not writing of some far of reward in some vague heaven, but here, in this life. The rewards will come with your compassion for others that grows with every fresh pain caused by caring.
You are valiant, and aspire to the greatness of those that struggled and won. Know now that even if you do not WIN, the struggles will have their own rewards.
The lessons are a given. How you apply them to your life is the unknown. I suspect you will use them well.
May the goodness of the unknown world flow to you and keep you, so that you may fly and remain safe.Posted 07-26-2009 at 03:32 AM by LookinForMayberry
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Post your question(s) on the main forums rather than the less populated journaling blogs.Posted 07-26-2009 at 06:36 AM by 2goldens
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Im so sorry about your lost! My self have lost many this year, first my daughter got attack by akita dog,but she is living. then my mother-in-law dies, then my husbands cousin dies, then a cousin on my side dies in car accident, then my sister -in -law lost her father 4 days ago, then, one of my good friend died 2 days ago. I can"t wait for this year to be over. god bless to all that have lost a love one! take care!Posted 07-26-2009 at 09:07 AM by mother738
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I am sorry for your loss. It is so hard to go through, but through it we must all go at some point in our lives. I never really thought about that or gave death much thought at all till I lost my husband a year and a half ago. I think 'LookingForMayberry' knows what they are talking about. I have gained a greater compassion for others going through this. Not that I didn't have any before but now I really know what they are feeling and going through and find it easier to help them in ways I never would have thought of before. Now I know that the survivors need more than a hug and a casserole and that it takes a really long time to come back from this.
I'm so glad to hear that you have learned something from the experience, that you can take this horrible event and find something good to carry with you through the rest of your life. Your friend would be happy for you too I'm sure. I'm sure you'll find more questions into the deep mysteries of life which no one can really answer but keep asking them anyway. And if you ever get any answers to those questions be sure to post them so we can all read and learn. Don't loose touch with your wake-up call, go out and do and see and try. Live life to it's fullest- we only get to ride this ride once.Posted 07-27-2009 at 09:31 AM by Correne
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At the age of 58, I have lost many friends in the past few years. I don't feel guilty because, as I am still here, and I believe there is still a purpose to my life, I will go on. That doesn't mean it is not painful because it is. You not only miss your friend or in my case my husband, but you have to pick yourself up and walk forward and continue your life.Posted 07-27-2009 at 09:56 PM by yukiko11
