Why do so many men ghost after the first date?

Originally Posted by Bvc654

I just want to know what I'm doing wrong. A big number of men I meet on OLD ghost me after the first date. I'm in my early 20s, slim & not ugly but not drop dead gorgeous. At first they show interest, they ask me out or they do it after I say hi first. After the first date they often unmatch, some of them as fast as 10 minutes after having said goodbye. Alternatively after that they don't text anything at all & don't reply if I reach out, or we go on another date and that's where it ends.

Is something wrong with my looks or are they just looking for something else, pretending to want a relationship? I'm beginning to feel ugly as hell even though I used to consider myself average to mildly attractive. I look younger than my age, more like a teenager. Is it a turn-off? In my description I stated I'm looking for a ltr to weed out sex hunters. Do they just feel they won't get sex quick and that's why they bail? Is my small amount of makeup a problem? I don't really like doing makeup because it dries out my skin. My behaviour is normal, I'm kind & polite, I don't swear, maybe I'm just a bit awkward or talk too much. Sometimes I can be 15 minutes late but I always let them know beforehand. I don't initiate physical contact on the first few dates, only hello/goodbye hugs and that's it.

Last time I was on a date this guy gave me a disgusted look, he literally looked like he wanted to kill me (not kidding!). Of course he didn't text at all after that & didn't reply when I texted him. I don't get it as he was the one who asked me out after I messaged him first. I felt terrible. It went almost the same with several other guys I met. Should I just give up on online dating? I think there's too much competition, especially since I live in a big city.