Is it "neglect" to let Mom live as she wants?
Posted 12-03-2018 at 11:01 AM by bbtondo
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Originally Posted by tigermomma
Do not, and I repeat: DO NOT MOVE AWAY FROM YOUR HUSBAND TO TRY TO HELP YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!!
Your mother has made a choice. It is not a choice that her husband wants her to make, nor you.
Unfortunately, all the great intentions in the world are not going to do a damn thing to prolong or
enhance a quality of life. She apparently has always been stubborn. That is on her, not you.
As an adult married female, your first and foremost duty is your husband, marriage and life in your
area. Just as your father has decided to do with your mother, he devoted his life to his marital duty
for good or ill. That is on him.
You make your bed, you lie in it. Don't sacrifice your husband and marriage out of a sense of guilt
to parents. Your husband does not deserve that. Eventually your mom will pass away and your
dad will be able to go on. You do not want to get yourself trapped in that scenario, only to return
to your husband and discover that your relationship is not the same. You are only one person.
Your mother has made a choice. It is not a choice that her husband wants her to make, nor you.
Unfortunately, all the great intentions in the world are not going to do a damn thing to prolong or
enhance a quality of life. She apparently has always been stubborn. That is on her, not you.
As an adult married female, your first and foremost duty is your husband, marriage and life in your
area. Just as your father has decided to do with your mother, he devoted his life to his marital duty
for good or ill. That is on him.
You make your bed, you lie in it. Don't sacrifice your husband and marriage out of a sense of guilt
to parents. Your husband does not deserve that. Eventually your mom will pass away and your
dad will be able to go on. You do not want to get yourself trapped in that scenario, only to return
to your husband and discover that your relationship is not the same. You are only one person.
I 100 percent agree with this! Our parents choose how they want to live their life. Where to live, to have kids, etc. Now it is time for the OP to live hers.
You can't change a stubborn person. Also, your parents have each other. This is not your fight. IMHO
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