Letting Grown Folks Be Grown Folks
Posted 11-05-2016 at 10:40 PM by TruckWife518
With age comes wisdom and experience. And there is often also a desire for peace and freedom from drama.
What do I mean? Well, I don't dare claim to speak for everyone but for some of us, the older we get, the less interest and patience we have for unnecessary stress and drama.
I have discovered there is great freedom and peace in allowing adults to live their lives and make their own decisions.
For example, I have some in-laws who consistently make choices for their lives that have kept them in the same predicaments for literally DECADES. It would stress both my husband and me out to see them daily repeating those same choices.
However, I heard someone a few months ago say, "You can't raise a grown person." Hearing that was so liberating for me! I realized that adults change if and when they're ready or if they feel they have hit rock bottom.
And in the case of many of my in-laws, I realized that no matter how much my husband and I felt stressed and upset that they keep going down the same path of mistakes day after day, year after year, it's still their choice and we can't force them to change.
So, I've learned to leave them alone and live my life without stressing myself about what they should or should not be doing (as long as they are not doing anything dangerous or illegal, of course).
I'm not saying I won't ever attempt to give advice but no more trying to FORCE them to agree with me. If they insist on doing stuff that has consistently brought them nothing but trouble in the past, then that's up to them.
What do I mean? Well, I don't dare claim to speak for everyone but for some of us, the older we get, the less interest and patience we have for unnecessary stress and drama.
I have discovered there is great freedom and peace in allowing adults to live their lives and make their own decisions.
For example, I have some in-laws who consistently make choices for their lives that have kept them in the same predicaments for literally DECADES. It would stress both my husband and me out to see them daily repeating those same choices.
However, I heard someone a few months ago say, "You can't raise a grown person." Hearing that was so liberating for me! I realized that adults change if and when they're ready or if they feel they have hit rock bottom.
And in the case of many of my in-laws, I realized that no matter how much my husband and I felt stressed and upset that they keep going down the same path of mistakes day after day, year after year, it's still their choice and we can't force them to change.
So, I've learned to leave them alone and live my life without stressing myself about what they should or should not be doing (as long as they are not doing anything dangerous or illegal, of course).
I'm not saying I won't ever attempt to give advice but no more trying to FORCE them to agree with me. If they insist on doing stuff that has consistently brought them nothing but trouble in the past, then that's up to them.
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