Making Relationships
Posted 12-07-2015 at 11:08 AM by Chance and Change
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Originally Posted by Chance and Change
Building Relationships will rest on more than what the eyes are attracted to. Charm is great and entertaining to the mind and spirit, the elements of beauty whether its emphasized by make up enhancements or simply plain and nature. but for the lasting connections.
Let the attractions bring you "to want to learn the person", and "be willing for the person to learn you".
It might be wise if you want a long term "developed" relationship is to work on 'developing it".
IF you are just on a "sex hunt", then you need to be honest about it -"up front". if thats not a mutual agreements, then don't scam and scheme for a 15 minute romp, because you will live to regret it.
WHY make any part of interacting and relating a self deceptive game- one thing is true- being honest in being whom you are, can relax your concerns and you will have an opportunity to be accepted for whom you are, how you feel and the beliefs you hold about life and relating.
If you start it out honest and simple, you have a good opportunity to "grow together" , if you are playing games of "let's pretend", or other 'fictions", you will find more turmoil than you bargained for.
there is no perfect, there are simply people, and the honest one are always working on improving themselves in ways of 'character growth", it won't be mistake proof, but it is a plan and patter which will only strengthen the integrity of the individuals as they move forth in living.
Don't make money the matter, because at some point it will be all that matters and you will have sold yourself for the pursuit of money, along with that comes 'emotional misery", and one continually has to face themselves as being one who is willing and eager to manipulate if it sees and aim for more money.
Your heart and the love you claim should be of far greater value than money, or lust. because in love the things that really matter is "LEARNING to TRUST each other". there is more value in building good trust, good understanding and shared ideas, aspirations and team working to build and support a life together.
Divorce is too rampant, and some are set up for Divorce before they marry, because they forgot or simply did not get the value perspectives communicated and/or corrected as to why they got married in the first place.
If you plan to marry, READ THE VOWS, then RE-READ THE VOWS, until you understand what type of commitment you are truly making. Then sit down and discuss it or make the discussion and ongoing part of the relations, because people grow and their thoughts to modify and grow over time. So communications is important to make such things a part of general subject matter at times and points within the relations. Not just when one is angry or at a point of frustration or challenge. Talk as an ongoing LEARNING experience of and with each other it will help each of your to diminish and if needed to overcome doubts.
Don't look for loopholes or to minimize any of the vows, because marriage is going to bring you a need to uphold the vows, and if you are prepared to honestly uphold the vows, you will have no problem with the works required to uphold them. If you have set up reservations within your mind, you will find it difficult to uphold the vows.
First Phase - Men, you do not OWN the woman, she is not your whipping toy.
Women, his job is not to be a monetary servant, and you are not a maid, but you share in the responsibility of what maintains a house and the lives who live within it. Learn to discuss sharing chores, or you each will meet with conflict at some point, of too many expectations, and too many frustrations.
What does it mean? It means COMMUNICATE !!!!
Realize as a man, you do not have to always be right, Realize woman, you do not have to be always right.
MANAGE WHAT YOU EXPECT OF EACH OTHERS, If you place RESPECT before you start expecting, you won't be frustrated at things you have to do for yourself. You will appreciate that you can do it and make it a contribution to self and relationship.
Get over the Cinderella Illusion, and Men Get over the Knight in Shining Armour.. BECOME, simply "HELP MATES" and you might find you can grow and develop an enduring relationship.
Let the attractions bring you "to want to learn the person", and "be willing for the person to learn you".
It might be wise if you want a long term "developed" relationship is to work on 'developing it".
IF you are just on a "sex hunt", then you need to be honest about it -"up front". if thats not a mutual agreements, then don't scam and scheme for a 15 minute romp, because you will live to regret it.
WHY make any part of interacting and relating a self deceptive game- one thing is true- being honest in being whom you are, can relax your concerns and you will have an opportunity to be accepted for whom you are, how you feel and the beliefs you hold about life and relating.
If you start it out honest and simple, you have a good opportunity to "grow together" , if you are playing games of "let's pretend", or other 'fictions", you will find more turmoil than you bargained for.
there is no perfect, there are simply people, and the honest one are always working on improving themselves in ways of 'character growth", it won't be mistake proof, but it is a plan and patter which will only strengthen the integrity of the individuals as they move forth in living.
Don't make money the matter, because at some point it will be all that matters and you will have sold yourself for the pursuit of money, along with that comes 'emotional misery", and one continually has to face themselves as being one who is willing and eager to manipulate if it sees and aim for more money.
Your heart and the love you claim should be of far greater value than money, or lust. because in love the things that really matter is "LEARNING to TRUST each other". there is more value in building good trust, good understanding and shared ideas, aspirations and team working to build and support a life together.
Divorce is too rampant, and some are set up for Divorce before they marry, because they forgot or simply did not get the value perspectives communicated and/or corrected as to why they got married in the first place.
If you plan to marry, READ THE VOWS, then RE-READ THE VOWS, until you understand what type of commitment you are truly making. Then sit down and discuss it or make the discussion and ongoing part of the relations, because people grow and their thoughts to modify and grow over time. So communications is important to make such things a part of general subject matter at times and points within the relations. Not just when one is angry or at a point of frustration or challenge. Talk as an ongoing LEARNING experience of and with each other it will help each of your to diminish and if needed to overcome doubts.
Don't look for loopholes or to minimize any of the vows, because marriage is going to bring you a need to uphold the vows, and if you are prepared to honestly uphold the vows, you will have no problem with the works required to uphold them. If you have set up reservations within your mind, you will find it difficult to uphold the vows.
First Phase - Men, you do not OWN the woman, she is not your whipping toy.
Women, his job is not to be a monetary servant, and you are not a maid, but you share in the responsibility of what maintains a house and the lives who live within it. Learn to discuss sharing chores, or you each will meet with conflict at some point, of too many expectations, and too many frustrations.
What does it mean? It means COMMUNICATE !!!!
Realize as a man, you do not have to always be right, Realize woman, you do not have to be always right.
MANAGE WHAT YOU EXPECT OF EACH OTHERS, If you place RESPECT before you start expecting, you won't be frustrated at things you have to do for yourself. You will appreciate that you can do it and make it a contribution to self and relationship.
Get over the Cinderella Illusion, and Men Get over the Knight in Shining Armour.. BECOME, simply "HELP MATES" and you might find you can grow and develop an enduring relationship.
It's truly not a joke of any sort by any means - One thing of importance unto "MOST" people is their relationship, if it goes bad, many other thing lose their vibrancy.
To have and maintain a relationship is an ongoing responsibility with many elements to be, become and engage responsibility, or ones relationship may not survive.
Sadly, we see everyday people "killing each other", often times it is behind misunderstanding, clinging to grudges, and people scratching at each other with 'conscending commentary, or intent to be rude and hurtful, and some simply plain neglectful and full of expections, as well as cycles of selfishness.
I don't come to the site to write pun and fun and make comedic jokes, - Life is a very precious experience, we should want to make the best of it within the choices we make and the engagements we undertake.
There is no basic course in high school, college or such that teaches people how to make honorable and functional relationships, and one thing is certain, a "degree' is not going to guarantee anyone a successful and functional and communicable relationship. Money can't buy one that is natural and honest. It is gained throught 'LEARNING" within living and through experiences, we can gain pointers and factors to help us, if we so acknowledge them as being such.
But if one is conscendending unto that, then they shut down and diminish their own accessibility to expand their learning.
For the Crazed people who lose awarness of themselves and want to go an kill another, Simply because the relationship did not work, That person should first go some place and work on themselves, face themselves and think about the work they need to do to improve themselves and work through their OWN issues, because killing the other person does not solve anything, and all it exemplifies is the weakness and laziness of the person who is wanting to do the killing of another.
They do not want to face the needs of work within themselves or the work needed upon themselves, so they go out and want to kill the other person. That is pure INSANITY.
There are many EMOTIONALLY LAZY PEOPLE,
There are many LAZY PEOPLE WHO RELY AND EXPECT TOO MUCH FROM AND OF OTHERS
There is too many people who cling to others rather than learn to improve themselves and learn how to share rather than being a needy clinger.
There are too many people TOO EAGER to blame the others, rather than focus on fixing their own parts in the relationship.
There are too many people who are smart asses, who are simply conscending, rude and mean spirited, and expect people to suck it up from them, These types of fools unto themselves.
There are too many people who think they own the other, as if they have the rights to beat on someone, These are CRIMINALS, who lack self responsibility and self control, AVOID THEM, GET AWAY FROM THEM AND MOSTLY PAY ATTENTION SO YOU CAN BE CAREFUL NOT TO GET IN A RELATION WITH SUCH TYPES.
LOVE IS WORK, AND ANYONE WHO DOES NOT ACCEPT, BELIEVE AND MAKE EFFORTS TO DEAL WITH THE WORK, IN AND UPON THEMSELVES, WITH AND THROUGH SHARING AND MUTUALLY RESPECTING THE HELP OF EACH OTHER, WILL HAVE A DIFFICULT TIME WITH MANY THINGS.
Don't be so quick to take criticism as negative and go learn the meaning of constructive criticism, But also LEARN how to express CONSTRUCTIVE criticisms, as well as it takes time to learn how to accept CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, because it is an art and skill to know how to express and how to receive Constructive Criticism, and realize among the main things to learn is, to learn what is EMPATHY, COMPASSION, AND WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO CARE IN HEART AND MIND, "BEFORE" YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTH.
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