The Elusive Dream For The Elusive Woman Stays Elusive For Now

Amazing how, in six years of blogging on my favorite blog site, this writer has not covered one topic, considering the things already discussed while we sit at the computer campfire together and shoot a breeze so as not to put out said fire. Oh, sure, there are quite a few subjects, admittedly, that I haven't touched on because either (1) it hasn't been on my mind, (2) I forgot to write it down in the car, or (3) Case just flat isn't interested.

The time has come for something new right here in this space. Can you believe that we're about to talk about love on Case's Column? Well, we briefly will this time around.

Let's face it: There is the good and the bad in life. I have purposefully avoided the Relationships forum here on City-Data because I've had nothing useful to add. For many years, I have made a choice, and that choice has been to stay single. For a variety of reasons, that's what I picked. Whether one would perceive it being bad or good, I've had to live with that choice. This Texas guy has done well in one regard, because it's better to be single (and never been married) than to be divorced. All the solitude in the world, I've got. I do what I want when I want. I've got a decent enough job but have never had much money. My life has the same basic routine every week (with some exceptions), but it could use some newness to it. Every week, I keep thinking how it might be if I actually did have a relationship with a woman. Now, it must be noted that I don't date much at all and, quite frankly, am real bored with that type of scene. Only I can take whatever initiative which must be taken to create change and make things happen for me and for whoever I spend time with.

You're probably wondering if I have fantasies? Yes, all the time. Besides, what male gizzard can't resist Raquel Welch in her prime? It may surprise you how many female celebrities I wish I'd share an evening with. Do I have dreams and wishes? Yes, everybody does. Will I have expectations in a relationship? Yes, everybody does, too. We all want compatibility, despite the challenge of working around things like strengths and weaknesses, different likes and dislikes, tastes in music, whether or not you have or like pets, how many love handles we have or don't have, what you talk about, and worrying about whether your partner will walk out on you on the first slip-up. Now, we all talk about expectations, but whatever happened to unconditional love? At first glance, you'd swear it doesn't exist. Sure, I've got broad shoulders and good hips and a smile that won't quit, but to a lot of folks, if they haven't seen me, then it doesn't mean a whole lot now.

Relationships take work. They are something that you and I must work at. I am working at my sense of humor. I am working at my social life. I've been involved in churches but am currently seeking out a new church home, as one's spiritual life is very important. There's nothing wrong with a person seeking to improve his or her life, regardless of whether or not one is set in his/her ways. Since I live alone, what happens if I die all of a sudden? Without a helpmate present in my life, who knows how long it will be before someone comes to look for me? Okay, that's a bit drastic, but it's not unrealistic, either. Companionship accomplishes so many things when two people share each other's lives together, in sickness and in health.

Do I crave romance? Absolutely, and I desire a woman who is romantic. I want to be able to step into that situation to fulfill a need that she may have. Too many relationships have had no sex or romance in them, and that's only one reason why people have gotten divorced. (Oh, great --- Sex on Case's Column.....) Time for "Love Connection". Where's ol' Chuck Woolery when you need him? Give him two minutes and two seconds, but I digress. I crave snuggling and cuddling and a little mushiness. I crave teasing. I crave intimacy with my partner. I crave the opportunity to meet my woman's needs just as she would reciprocate with my own needs. I also crave having my woman as my best friend and best bud, doing things together, playing together, praying together, breaking bread together, taking trips together, on and on....

By the way, in the past, we've had a few female posters come on these blogs to occasionally talk about their love lives, giving their juicy details about the goings-on with them. Yes, I've read them with much interest, but in any event, they certainly commanded my attention. They were very open. Now, I haven't been near as open or as overtly personal in my writings (to that extent), but I do applaud said writers for taking time to express themselves. That's what these blogs have been all about.

Will that elusive woman of my dreams ever appear in reality? I don't know that answer. She hasn't so far, but that doesn't mean that she never will. I'm 47 years old as I type this chickenscratch for all to see. One of these days, this writer will grow tired of being alone and want to change a few things in his life, and there's nothing wrong with initiating change. The lady of my dreams may be out there, wanting to be treated with respect and dignity, waiting for just the right guy to be the one to complete her. Is she out there? Time will tell. I hope and pray that I will seek to be that man who will love her like no other man can, as the Bible commands husbands to love their wives. I'd like to be that man who will look deep into her eyes, to embrace her, and to hold onto her. I'd like for her to whisper to me, for our bodies to touch, and for our souls to touch. Dear folks, I want you to know that I'm not perfect, and neither will my future mate. I just desire a lady who is perfect for me. We'll never have 100 percent common ground. That's the way it is.

I could live alone the rest of my life, but when opportunity knocks on my door, I must take advantage. Sure, it's a risk, but it's a risk worth taking.