Everyone is worthy of love
Posted 03-18-2013 at 05:08 PM by EnglishMajor1983
I decided to give this blog thing a try, because I've been so emotional today that I just need to vent.
I don't understand how people can be so close-minded. How people can just assume that because one thing is easy for them, that it is easy for everybody.
There was a thread I was responding to quite vehemently today demeaning overweight people. Some commenters defended overweight people, but others agreed with the original poster. Are people seriously that heartless? I hope most of those people never have children because those are horrible morals to bestow on youngsters. Berate overweight people because thin people are so much better than they are! Please.
I am still quite angry. I know I shouldn't be, because it's only the internet and these are total strangers. But still, this affects me. For the longest time I've struggled with confidence issues. I am now confident in my body and in my skin, but it's been a long journey of which I never thought I'd meet the end.
I guess my main question is...why are so many people convinced that overweight people are so undeserving of love? What did we do wrong that we don't deserve the love of another? Or, if we do fall in love, it has to be with another overweight person because they are the only ones who should meet our standards? What if the overweight person is a cruel person and the average size person is a kind, loving individual? Should we just automatically flock to the overweight person because he or she should be the best we can get, despite how that person treats others?
I've had dates of all shapes and sizes. Big guys, tall lanky guys, average guys. Their size was never the first thing that attracted me to them. It was always the fact that they were kind, caring individuals with whom I had a great time. And that's all that should matter, right?
I guess we all do have a preference. If I had to choose a type, I guess I would have to say I do prefer guys with a little meat on their bones. But I've never discounted a person due to physical appearance. Looks do not matter in the big scope of things. Looks fade. Personality and qualities do not.
Now back to my homework and more headaches!
~EnglishMajor1983
I don't understand how people can be so close-minded. How people can just assume that because one thing is easy for them, that it is easy for everybody.
There was a thread I was responding to quite vehemently today demeaning overweight people. Some commenters defended overweight people, but others agreed with the original poster. Are people seriously that heartless? I hope most of those people never have children because those are horrible morals to bestow on youngsters. Berate overweight people because thin people are so much better than they are! Please.
I am still quite angry. I know I shouldn't be, because it's only the internet and these are total strangers. But still, this affects me. For the longest time I've struggled with confidence issues. I am now confident in my body and in my skin, but it's been a long journey of which I never thought I'd meet the end.
I guess my main question is...why are so many people convinced that overweight people are so undeserving of love? What did we do wrong that we don't deserve the love of another? Or, if we do fall in love, it has to be with another overweight person because they are the only ones who should meet our standards? What if the overweight person is a cruel person and the average size person is a kind, loving individual? Should we just automatically flock to the overweight person because he or she should be the best we can get, despite how that person treats others?
I've had dates of all shapes and sizes. Big guys, tall lanky guys, average guys. Their size was never the first thing that attracted me to them. It was always the fact that they were kind, caring individuals with whom I had a great time. And that's all that should matter, right?
I guess we all do have a preference. If I had to choose a type, I guess I would have to say I do prefer guys with a little meat on their bones. But I've never discounted a person due to physical appearance. Looks do not matter in the big scope of things. Looks fade. Personality and qualities do not.
Now back to my homework and more headaches!
~EnglishMajor1983
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Its funny how that works. When I was in my 20's and thin as a man most women were thin to average body styles and I used to date a lot of them. But now that I am in my 50's and most women are over weight to some degree and about 30% are obese in my age group while i remain thin, most think I am too thin and not enough meat on my bones. Oh well you can never win.Posted 03-23-2013 at 11:12 AM by brad4143
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I love people I would never dislike a person because of there size. That's foolish and you don't need foolish people in your circle. I can also relate to being skinny in days of curves. Lol I have always been thin and have been ridiculed. Names like bony moroney,skinny minnie,olive oil my 6th grade teacher called me sticks and made me sit in the back of class.My Mother taught to ignore foolish people and there comments.You are God's beautiful child People need to stop bulling other people. It make them look so small. Good luck be happy!Posted 03-24-2013 at 01:16 PM by Miss McCormick
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Great blog!..I've gone on threads to try to defend overweight people in the past. (Especially when some posters become really mean and nasty.)...The model "Twiggy" came on the scene when I was a teenager and everyone was suppose to "follow-suit" and be just like her and "razor-thin."...I was anorexic for 9 years before I came to my senses. I'm one of the lucky ones because I didn't end-up dead...Things seem way out of hand today and I definitely get mad when people feel entitled to turn overweight people into a big "joke" and heap shame on them...I'm normal size today. (Not overweight.) But count me "in" when it comes to "bashing" the "bashers!" It makes me sick to see so much "hate" and scapegoating going on today.Posted 04-24-2013 at 04:59 PM by CArizona
