Divorced
Posted 05-03-2012 at 10:36 AM by Pikantari
Today I sat in a courtroom full of people wanting to be divorced from their spouses. They sat there with their lawyers and witnesses and the whole process seemed rather simple.
The judge saved the people with no attorney for last, and that included me and another person.
One side of the circle met the other today. I married this man in 1995 as a young person and we were engaged 4 years prior to that. We have been separated for 5 years and it was time for us to close the gap.
It was an awesome feeling when the judge told me that my former spouse would get the final decree of divorce in the mail in about a week or so. My former spouse.
I was granted my maiden name by my request.
It is over. I can move on with the rest of my life now. As young people we seemed to be fighting the odds. We were trying to prove everyone wrong. All of the people who said we were not supposed to be together and we would never last we tried to prove wrong.
It got tiring trying to prove them wrong. We were engaged for 4 years before getting married and standing at the alter I trembled. I was thinking to myself, "What am I doing? Why am I doing this?"
I knew in my mind I was doing the wrong thing, I knew it. I did it anyway. Our son was almost a year and a half and I thought I may be pregnant. It was the right thing to do and how could I raise these children alone?
Oh when I lost my father a few months before I really thought of it. My ex husband did not treat me with any sympathy over the loss of my father. He did not care about my feelings and this is when it all began.
I saw it, I felt it, I knew it. I married him anyway. He kept asking when we were getting married. We had been engaged for so long, when are we getting married?
I figured then was as good a time as any and we got married.
All these years later...... once I got on the stand it took less that ten minutes and it was over. The circle is complete and he can never try and think he owns me or can control me again. His name is gone and I am moving on to the best part of my life ever...
And so it begins.
The judge saved the people with no attorney for last, and that included me and another person.
One side of the circle met the other today. I married this man in 1995 as a young person and we were engaged 4 years prior to that. We have been separated for 5 years and it was time for us to close the gap.
It was an awesome feeling when the judge told me that my former spouse would get the final decree of divorce in the mail in about a week or so. My former spouse.
I was granted my maiden name by my request.
It is over. I can move on with the rest of my life now. As young people we seemed to be fighting the odds. We were trying to prove everyone wrong. All of the people who said we were not supposed to be together and we would never last we tried to prove wrong.
It got tiring trying to prove them wrong. We were engaged for 4 years before getting married and standing at the alter I trembled. I was thinking to myself, "What am I doing? Why am I doing this?"
I knew in my mind I was doing the wrong thing, I knew it. I did it anyway. Our son was almost a year and a half and I thought I may be pregnant. It was the right thing to do and how could I raise these children alone?
Oh when I lost my father a few months before I really thought of it. My ex husband did not treat me with any sympathy over the loss of my father. He did not care about my feelings and this is when it all began.
I saw it, I felt it, I knew it. I married him anyway. He kept asking when we were getting married. We had been engaged for so long, when are we getting married?
I figured then was as good a time as any and we got married.
All these years later...... once I got on the stand it took less that ten minutes and it was over. The circle is complete and he can never try and think he owns me or can control me again. His name is gone and I am moving on to the best part of my life ever...
And so it begins.
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