Tuesday February 28, 2012

Does common sense exist anymore? Is the obvious to me and a million other humans hidden from a few? How did humanity get so stupid regarding some areas of life in general?

It is possible I am just quite jaded when it comes to these issues but at times I feel compelled to be jaded and snarky with answers to questions I choose to answer.

One does not need to be a master of the obvious if they would read what they posted before clicking on that post button. A lot of times the original poster answered their own question in their original post.

Common sense seems to be a trait that is not so common right now and the trend of relationship type questions just blows my mind at times. Life in general is as difficult as some make it in my opinion.

Yes bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people, that is how life goes, get over it and quit whining. Strive to make a better life for yourself because no one is going to do it for you.

Humans of all ages seem to lack knowledge, experience and maturity when it comes to jobs, relationships, children, parenting and communication. I have yet to figure out why or how this has happened but it has happened.

I am not the most tech intelligent person on the planet but I do know how to text and I have a cell phone and a computer and email and a DVD player so I am not completely ignorant about those items. I am ignorant about other computer played games though. I play a few but comparatively they are basic simple games which I like. I am not however glued to my computer to play said games. I play while having coffee in the morning or right before I go to bed in the evening just to relax. They are mind numbing games that I play for pleasure. I am not addicted to them by any means. I can turn them on or off at any time and not think twice about it. At times I think I am a minority when it comes to this but it is not something I dwell on or much care about.

Then there are the "Which celebrity do you prefer", well my answer is none of them. I have no need to fantasize about anyone since I am quite content and very happy with my life and my husband. I don't wish to be someone else or with someone else but I am not 'star struck' either. I think it is great for those people since they have strived for their position and worked hard and achieved their goals. That does not make them any better a person than I or many other humans are. It also does not give them any more rights than I have it just means they do a different job than I do and get paid a lot of money. Good for them, I am happy they achieved their goal but I really do not need to know when they brush their teeth, who designed their clothing or what they had for supper last night with whom and where when they were supposed to be with someone else on mars playing footisie according to the tabloids.

My favorites I think are relationships, oh my some of the things that are written. I wonder more often than not if some of those posting have too much time on their hands to think up some of the details they post. If you post that you treated the person in your relationship badly then ask why they would leave. Seriously, did you read the words you already wrote?

At times the things I actually take the time to read and respond to I'm sure causes my IQ to drop at least 10 points. Whose fault is it that I continue to read and respond? It is all my choice to do so and yes that is stupid to a point but I do it anyway. It seems to give me a reason to be snarky on the days I'm not feeling well, it is a release of sorts to just blurt out what I do and see what happens next. I am a very blunt person anyway and I see most of life and life's situations in black and white, to me there is very little if any gray.

After I post a response there are the usual counter replies that I'm insensitive, clueless about how life goes, irresponsible for saying what I did, mean for saying what I did and the many other names I've been referred to. Then there are those that agree with me but would never write such words or applaud my post in public because they don't want to "offend" anyone. They will send a private message to me but no one else will see it so I remain "the bad guy" and they remain anonymous to everyone but me.

I partially understand their position but not really. When did the truth have to be masked because no one wants to offend anyone? I've been offended many times throughout my lifetime by words written or spoken by others. I did not like to hear or read those words but they were the truth and I did appreciate the honest opinion. I did appreciate someone pointing out to me what was obvious to them but not to me because of my emotional attachment to the issue at hand.

Are there softer ways to present something? Of course there are but why waste the time going in a circle around the bush when you can go straight to the bush and say the truth that needs to be said and be done with it. I guess I will never understand human's need to cushion words spoken or written. The truth is the truth and it needs to be put out there. Real life has no cushion, it is not soft at times, there is no feathered mattress to land on in a lot of situations yet humans feel entitled to softness everywhere for every situation.

Get a grip and face the reality of reality, cushions in life situations do not exist. Comfort exist, caring exist, passion exist, understanding exist but cushion does not exist.

I find though quite a few issues in life are brought on by those who are having the issues yet they do not want to take responsibility for their own actions. There is always someone else to blame if one looks long enough. That is the easy way out in my opinion. Blame someone else for your actions, go to the Doctor and get legal drugs, stay in a drug induced stupor or drink your issues into oblivion and reality slips away and once again life is cushioned and reality does not exist because it is too "hard" to deal with.

Yes there are humans who do not possess the mental faculties to deal with some of life's issues. Yes there are very traumatic things that happen in life that can scar you mentally and physically for life, I understand all of that. I have survived a few of those traumatic things myself but I have overcome these issues without drinking, drugs, therapy or any other non reality inducing substance; unless you count my nicotine addiction. It was not easy to overcome these things and it was not pretty and it did not happen over night but it did happen and it made me stronger physically, spiritually and emotionally because of the entire experience.

Some of these things were my own actions and some of them were the result of others actions but they were overcome and are in control most of the time. I still have residuals from time to time but not often. The good news is when these residuals come to the surface I am better prepared to handle the emotional part of all of it and put them away rather quickly and move forward once again in life better for the experience, maturing a wee bit more, and growing stronger emotionally.

I'm not really sure what the point of todays writing is. I just know it gets very exhausting reading some of the things others write so I just quit reading a lot of it. I feel I can contribute in some small way but others who respond choose to inform me that I am mean, cruel and have been no help at all regarding the situation.

Okay, that is your opinion but why tell me this when your opinion is just as important if not more important than mine and you said the same thing as I did you just used different words and circled the bush a few times before going to it.

Is it really necessary to cushion real life for everyone? Is it really necessary to try and make absolutely everthing easy for others to swallow the truth? I don't think so but I'm sure I will be shown the error of my thoughts soon enough.