Depression.....
Just some general thoughts...there's nothing orderly about what follows...
How can you tell your depressed?
1. Time moves real slow or fast....
a. If your depressed about the future, time will move fast...
b. If your depressed do to present situation or circumstance...time will seem to move real slow...
c. If your happy and content in your person, your life, and your circmunstances, time will move along at the right pace...
2. When the simplist of tasks seem very burdensome....
a. Like just cleaning up the kitchen or taking out the trash, or picking stuff up off the floor will seem 'futile'....when weighed against what's really troubling you, such tasks seem pointless....
Kind of like trying to get value from washing your car hours before a comet strikes the earth....
3. You withdraw....
a. You stop wanting to answer the phone or call folks, or family, cause you feel like your just 'faking' that everything is 'ok'....(when it's actually people you need most during those times)....
b. Going out interests you even less...again...such activities seem futile, pointless...when that comets about to hit the earth in hours....and when you do go out, you seem or feel totally emotionally detached from those around you...everything just starts seeming like a stage prop....
4. Sitting along for hours and just thinking seems to become your favorite most prefered activity....
As if somehow if your just left alone, and aloud to think long enough without being interupted, that you'll come up with a solution for what ails you....
You just need 2,3 4, 5 days to yourself, which turns into 10,20,30....which can turn into 1, month, 2, months, 3 months in mental and social isolation....
5. You'll plan plan plan...but won't even have the motivation to get the first task done...cause again...your unhappy....depressed, so why fix that table when that comet is looming above the earth and will strike within minutes....may as well just sit and think....
6. Your appetite deminishes...
a. You may be hungry...but why bother preparing a nice meal...that would mean having to go to the grocery store and see people...(who would want to interact with me in this state of mind)....so I'll just go to corner store, sneak in real quick and buy something off the shelf....
"I'm not worth a good meal anyways"....
7. You do the same thing over and over, as if somehow doing it the 20th time will yield different results....
8. When you find it easy to help others resolve their problems or issues, but seem so helpless to do anything about your own...
9. When chemical dependency seems worth the risk it has on your health...either way, you feel like your dying a slow agonizing death of sorrow and regret....
10. When money ceases to matter or mean much to you anymore...or even a job....
Ok....like I said...don't ask, just continue to read...
The type of depression I'm talking about is 'circumstancial' depression...which can later lead to actually chemical depression if not acted upon or corrected...
Being in a situation that makes you unhappy long enough, can actually cause you to give up...then your body becomes use to being depressed, so that even when things change, your still in that depressed mode....your body has gotten use to that mode, and thinks that's normal...
I suppose you want solutions now?
What do you think I am...a snake oil salesman?
I have no magic cures...but I do have some suggestions...
1. Go back to a time and place in your life when you were 'happy'....
....and had hope....and ask yourself what has changed between back then and now? What were you doing differently then, compared to now?, that allowed you to be happy?
2. Sometimes just walking away from a bad situation is the only way...literally just leaving everything behind...letting go completly and starting over....
a. Like just catching a bus to San Fransisco and taking your chances...
Sometimes it's the challenges of a new enviornment that will revive your inner spirit...that will bring out that 'fighter' in you...
b. Often it's the accumilation of 'stuff', that becomes an anchor for us....always worried about 'stuff'...junk, can often stifle progress...
Believe it or not...when I was homeless...I was much happier than I am now...I felt free...left alone...not trapped....when I was homeless and lived in me van...I was content...there was nothing like waking up on a cool morning in or on the edge of a forest knowing there was no one or nothing to bug you...that I had all I needed right there with me...no rent, no pressure to do this or to do that....I enjoyed it...
I found happiness in other ways...your forced to at that level...it's almost like a cleansing effect....cause your freed from the whole monetary illusion....
This idea that you need money and stuff to be happy is a deadly trap to most...to many...and to ever think you can accumilate enough of it to get what you really want out of life, is also a farse...
When your homeless...you learn to live as the duck....to only get or seek after what you need for that day...and boy does it take a big burden off of ya....
Man can sometimes be the cure, or your problem in dealing with depression....
Continued on next post....
How can you tell your depressed?
1. Time moves real slow or fast....
a. If your depressed about the future, time will move fast...
b. If your depressed do to present situation or circumstance...time will seem to move real slow...
c. If your happy and content in your person, your life, and your circmunstances, time will move along at the right pace...
2. When the simplist of tasks seem very burdensome....
a. Like just cleaning up the kitchen or taking out the trash, or picking stuff up off the floor will seem 'futile'....when weighed against what's really troubling you, such tasks seem pointless....
Kind of like trying to get value from washing your car hours before a comet strikes the earth....
3. You withdraw....
a. You stop wanting to answer the phone or call folks, or family, cause you feel like your just 'faking' that everything is 'ok'....(when it's actually people you need most during those times)....
b. Going out interests you even less...again...such activities seem futile, pointless...when that comets about to hit the earth in hours....and when you do go out, you seem or feel totally emotionally detached from those around you...everything just starts seeming like a stage prop....
4. Sitting along for hours and just thinking seems to become your favorite most prefered activity....
As if somehow if your just left alone, and aloud to think long enough without being interupted, that you'll come up with a solution for what ails you....
You just need 2,3 4, 5 days to yourself, which turns into 10,20,30....which can turn into 1, month, 2, months, 3 months in mental and social isolation....
5. You'll plan plan plan...but won't even have the motivation to get the first task done...cause again...your unhappy....depressed, so why fix that table when that comet is looming above the earth and will strike within minutes....may as well just sit and think....
6. Your appetite deminishes...
a. You may be hungry...but why bother preparing a nice meal...that would mean having to go to the grocery store and see people...(who would want to interact with me in this state of mind)....so I'll just go to corner store, sneak in real quick and buy something off the shelf....
"I'm not worth a good meal anyways"....
7. You do the same thing over and over, as if somehow doing it the 20th time will yield different results....
8. When you find it easy to help others resolve their problems or issues, but seem so helpless to do anything about your own...
9. When chemical dependency seems worth the risk it has on your health...either way, you feel like your dying a slow agonizing death of sorrow and regret....
10. When money ceases to matter or mean much to you anymore...or even a job....
Ok....like I said...don't ask, just continue to read...
The type of depression I'm talking about is 'circumstancial' depression...which can later lead to actually chemical depression if not acted upon or corrected...
Being in a situation that makes you unhappy long enough, can actually cause you to give up...then your body becomes use to being depressed, so that even when things change, your still in that depressed mode....your body has gotten use to that mode, and thinks that's normal...
I suppose you want solutions now?
What do you think I am...a snake oil salesman?
I have no magic cures...but I do have some suggestions...
1. Go back to a time and place in your life when you were 'happy'....
....and had hope....and ask yourself what has changed between back then and now? What were you doing differently then, compared to now?, that allowed you to be happy?2. Sometimes just walking away from a bad situation is the only way...literally just leaving everything behind...letting go completly and starting over....
a. Like just catching a bus to San Fransisco and taking your chances...
Sometimes it's the challenges of a new enviornment that will revive your inner spirit...that will bring out that 'fighter' in you...
b. Often it's the accumilation of 'stuff', that becomes an anchor for us....always worried about 'stuff'...junk, can often stifle progress...
Believe it or not...when I was homeless...I was much happier than I am now...I felt free...left alone...not trapped....when I was homeless and lived in me van...I was content...there was nothing like waking up on a cool morning in or on the edge of a forest knowing there was no one or nothing to bug you...that I had all I needed right there with me...no rent, no pressure to do this or to do that....I enjoyed it...
I found happiness in other ways...your forced to at that level...it's almost like a cleansing effect....cause your freed from the whole monetary illusion....
This idea that you need money and stuff to be happy is a deadly trap to most...to many...and to ever think you can accumilate enough of it to get what you really want out of life, is also a farse...
When your homeless...you learn to live as the duck....to only get or seek after what you need for that day...and boy does it take a big burden off of ya....
Man can sometimes be the cure, or your problem in dealing with depression....
Continued on next post....
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Being in a healthy relationship lessons your chance of being depressed...
Being in a healthy relationship also lessons the chances of being depressed...
It always helps when you have someone else to validate your feelings, thoughts, beliefs....
The bible had it right when it said 'It is not good for 'man' to be alone'...
But with todays complex social lines drawn and sub cultures...it can be very difficult for people to pair off....
With the increasing ease of life that technology brings...relationships seem to take on more of a 'recreational' tone....and as such looking for a mate is often done in the same way one shops at Wal-Mart...
We're always trying to find that 'perfect fit'...which may be near impossible with so many shoes to choose from...
And in todays climate, people tend to dispose or change mates, as quickly as they change outfits...
Many recognize they would be happier in a relationship...but meeting, courting, dating, getting along with someone long enough to trust them with your feelings, can be a challenge in todays fast food enviornment...
And if you don't meet your mate in traditional enviornments like church or college or work...then it can be even harder...
Then your left with clubs, bars and or online dating...
But I stress...it has to be a healthy relationship...or it could make things worse...Posted 10-01-2011 at 08:13 AM by Time and Space
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Let's go over some causes again...and symptoms...
1. Working a job you don't like...
2. Low pay at work, working long hard hours, but still not able to save up enough captiol to get anywhere...
3. Bad relationship...recent break-up...
4. Death of a loved one...
5. Constant discrimination (imagined or not, if you feel your constantly being descriminated against do to a, b, c, it can effect your long term mood, and self esteem)
6. Illness...long drawn out illness...
7. Old age, or just growing old...(expecially doing so alone)
8. Not being accepted into a University of your choice...
9. Looks...not feeling attractive...
10. Long term unemployment...
Most people are able to rebound from these events with relative ease...
But if your already emotionally frail, and have multiple events happen at once...it can take a toll...
Like to be unemployed and then find out your ill...
Or ageing and not feeling attractive...
Or being in a bad relationship, while working on a bad job....
Still most are resiliant enough to endure or rebound emotionally cause they have a healthy balance of friends and family...
But if your already on the edge of social relavance...and have no one to turn to...it can present more of a challange to stay afloat....
And being sad, is not the same as being depressed...
Sad is like a cloudy afternoon, which soon goes away...
Depressed is like a 3 month long monsoon with a constant down pour that never lets up...
Also 'guilt' or unresolved guilt can lead to long term depression...
Not living up to your obligations....
And or certain church doctorine...expecially churches that harp over and over again about 'hll fire' and how you end up there unless....
They say salvation is a 'free gift from God'...but then go on to say all the things you must proove to them, that your indeed 'saved'....
Or they'll say 'Salvation is a free gift of God'...as long as the gift takes place within their denomination or doctorine...
Ahh...so many causes...each person kind of has to find their own cure for what ails them...Posted 10-01-2011 at 03:24 PM by Time and Space
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I think what ails me at time is lack of progression...or procrastination....cause when you procrastinate, nothing gets done...everything just stays as a wonderful idea in your head, but never gets done...
Nothing will move forward in your life if one procrastinates...
Also, lack of decent friends or family...
But with friends, you know they're your friend cause they want to be, not cause they have to be...
And if you have friends to talk to, it makes what your going through 'not so bad'...gives perspective to whatever it is your dealing with...whether injected humor, insight, whatever...
But without friends, or anyone to communicate with, we tend to get lost in our own maze of thoughts...and sometimes can't find our way out...
And then sometimes you may or might reach threshold of accomplishments...
In that you feel your existance has come down to just 'labour' to survive, and not labour to prosper....
Any how...just more brain storming...
Facing up to responsiblilty is also a great cure for depression in some...
to be continued...Posted 10-25-2011 at 09:46 AM by Time and Space
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Another sign of depression...clutter...
Clutter...
Often times when your depressed, your immediate space will become cluttered...
Why?
Best why I can relay it is with this scenerio...
It would be like trying to straighten your room up, or house up, when in your mind, there's a bomb that will be dropped on your house, (life), in days...so with that belief or mindset, how's cleaning your room, or house, going to change the fact that a bomb will drop in your life soon?
In other words some of us want the big picture to be right first, before the little things have significants in our lives again...
So until the bomb scare goes away, we're not to concerned about a dirty kitchen, or trash on the floor...
Sometimes i find myself in such a mindset...
What's the remedy?
Oh I'm sure there's lots...but one that might work is breaking things down into smaller, managable moduals...
In other words 'near thoughtedness'...kind of like near sightedness...only focusing on things that are infront of you, and that your able to effect at that moment...and kind of saying the hell with everything else...
Only being concerned about the things you can control...which is really only ourselves when you get down to it...
Downsizing the scope of thought....instead of worrying about orbital position of stars in the Universe, maybe just fixen up the backyard will suffice....
And or maybe even embraccing the fact that that bombs going to fall and explode...cause one thing for sure, when it does, change will occur...good or bad, something different will certainly come out of it...
From the ashes rises what?...a pheonix right?...maybe even more streamlined and efficient than before...
Anyways...just wanted to get some things off the mind...good day..Posted 12-23-2011 at 10:28 PM by Time and Space
